When Life Goes Wrong...

Sometimes s**t happens and it can feel like one bad thing happens after another…

That was me a couple of weeks ago – yes, it happens to me too.?

I was poodling along feeling so grateful for all the blessings in my life and then something happened on the Monday which was pretty awful. The interesting thing was my trauma response was to go bed. Yes, when life goes very wrong – bury your head under the duvet and scream Liz!!!

After a lot of crying, swearing and getting support from my dearest friends and family, I slowly picked myself up, dusted myself off and got back in the game of life.?

By the Friday, I was feeling good! Zumba, working with clients and even doing sweet little live events on Insight Timer and with my private FB community.?

And then BOOM??????– Friday afternoon another pretty awful thing happened and then Friday evening, yes, you guessed it, another bloody awful thing happened.?

After some more fearful thoughts and yes, more crying, I realised that the Universe had been guiding me and helping to work through these issues and it was all happening for a reason.?

This is because I now have tools ??????

Tools, to help me come out of the fight or flight mode.?

Tools to help calm my traumatised nervous system.?

Tools to help me lower my cortisol levels while raising my vibration.?

I’m not saying it’s necessarily easy but it does definitely work.?

The world feels like a crazy place at the moment – there is so much fear about the cost of living crisis and devastating conflict in different parts of the world. It’s easy for so many of us to retreat into that place of foreboding and crippling feelings of lack and I’ll say it again, fear.?

What to do when life goes wrong… Badly!

If you’re in this situation or someone in your life is, have a look at the points below and for more ideas in my blog . They might help you or them. These and all that I’ve shared in the blog is what helped me a couple of weeks ago and really, any time I revert back into my “old self” of trauma induced paralysis.?

• Scream, yes scream!?If you’re in an environment that you can safely do this and you won’t scare the bejesus out of anyone near you. This gets it out of your body. You’re not trying to bury the emotions – you’re literally giving them a voice which is always so much better for you than squashing it all down.
• Bash some pillows or cushions.?Again, this is getting the anger out of the body and benefits you in much the same way as screaming but I recommend both.?Louise Hay?swore by giving pillows a good old bash on a regular basis even if she felt angry or not – she wrote about how buried feelings of anger and distress are so damaging to us in every way and this exercise gets it out.?
• Talk to someone you can trust and who won’t judge you.?This is really important. You need support from someone who is there for you. Someone who won’t criticise you (even subtly) or tell you what to do. They will just listen. These people are priceless so don’t ever let them go!!

Now, what to do when you start to feel a bit better?

When the worst of the feelings start to abate, then what can you do? I’m just sharing the bullet points as everything to help you is in my latest blog - follow this link :

• Meditation
• Tapping
• Gratitude
• De-cluttering
• Get Yourself a God Box! You really need to read about this ??

I’m sure you might have a few tools of your own but sometimes, we just need a little reminder don’t we?

I hope that reading about my own authentic feelings shows you that life is a work in progress for us all. We ALL have our stuff. But you might be in a place where your feelings run much deeper. You might think that it’s time to put YOU first. If so,?have a look at what my coaching involves .?

And to close, this is a great affirmation from?Louise Hay. I always find it helps to say these kind of affirmations over and over again when I am feeling fearful or worried.

Life supports me in every possible way

With much love and thanks Liz ??

P.S. The Love Yourself Challenge continues in my private FB group, Love Yourself - Women Inspiring Women this Friday at 1pm. We’re onto Steps 5 and 6 of Louise Hay’s How To Love Yourself.

If you’re not in the group and want to join us, here is the link . Follow along each week or just drop in when you want. Invite someone to join you on the challenge by inviting them to join the group ??

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