When intentions are pure, you don't lose anyone, they lose you

When you are a good person, even if things don't work out for you with a specific person or group, you are most likely going to feel hurt a lot. But the best part is when you move forward, those people who have lost you will run after you, if not with any specific interest or for any favor, at least to get your attention and feel important. You will be amazed to see how people behave when they lose a good person. Now if somebody or some people hate you or have negative feelings of say jealousy for me when I have been good, I would love to take my chances to be bad to them because their nature is known.

And if you want to become good towards others, and show faith on them, they will cheat you at their full and; leave you alone at the end of the day when you are in need of them. So i want to suggest only one thing that be good at your own risk and if you are good always be prepared for the cheaters, and always be ready and strong enough to do all your works at your own and make yourself too much strong in will power that no failure can move you away from your road of hard work and passion.

Moreover, one more thing that is most powerful is God. and surely if you are really good person, and anyone even tries to cheat you, at any instant of your life, surely you will be ahead of him in your life and will win the rat race before him. It is not that a good person is not incapable of making mistakes and is just as able to lose people that may be beneficial to their lives as anyone else. Instead, the quote should be that “a good person with intelligence doesn't lose people.” But that could be wrong too in exactly the same way.

Truthfully, a good person should know when they've made a mistake and an intelligent person should know how to fix that mistake or at the very least adjust to it accordingly. Those who deliberately destroyed the relationships with me leave me with nothing but a mixture of feeling pity for their poor souls. In situations like that my thoughts are like.. poor you it's so retarded to lose me as a friend. I feel sorry. For you. It must be so dull in your shallow mind. As a last credit to you, thank you for creating space for those who are worth my time and love.

I think it is quote egotistical statement and pushes the ideas of perfectionism and patriarchy onto people like if you feel as though you miss/have lost people, and they don’t miss you/ feel they have lost you as well, then you aren’t as good a person, or vice versa. It also seems to prop-up the ideas of non-attachment/ detachment, like to be a good person, you can’t/won’t ‘hang on’ to loss; but somehow you will be such a great person because of that, people won’t be able to let you go? Yeah, egotistical/ double standard!

Of course at a certain point, being a good person means taking care of yourself and leaving toxic people behind. Otherwise, you're devaluing yourself and if you have children, you're being a bad example by keeping them around or tolerating it. There are few people who out other people wants first and then make decision. There are very few people who go to lengths that others would never do it for you. Therefore my advice is to identify them, respect them and keep them.

But it is not the purpose of life, finding or developing oneself to the best possible self one could be their true self. Logically speaking, it seems wrong to say that a person can be his or her true self if there is a better version of themselves that they can become. If there is a better version of you that you can become, how can it be possible that the more flawed, lazy, unsuccessful version that you currently are is more you than the successful, energetic, happy person that you could be? Our true selves lie in the versions of ourselves that are constantly striving to be better, to achieve more and to add to humanity. No one is perfect nor ever will be, but striving to be better is what makes life worth living and is what will lead you to true happiness. Cheers!