When does pride get in the way of our leadership?

Are you waiting for the door to open or are you holding the door?

In the same way that many other things in life do, pride has both positive and negative components.

The natural reaction to exerting significant effort is to feel pleased with oneself.

Hubris, on the other hand, occurs when a feeling of self-importance becomes entangled with an exaggerated sense of self-importance. This kind of attitude may be detrimental to your physical and mental health, as well as your capacity to lead successfully. Never allow your ego to stand in the way of positive interpersonal connections with other individuals.

We've all experienced the pleasure of being pleased with one's accomplishment. The response occurs as a result of being wounded or mistreated by another individual. When we conquer hardship, we are filled with a feeling of pride and success. Even though pride may make us feel good and even protect us from danger, it can also have a negative impact on our lives. I want to write about a particular kind of pride and how it may make it difficult, if not impossible, to repair ties with the people in your life after a traumatic incident.

As a leader, you can't afford to be self-absorbed. While pride is admirable, true leadership is about stewardship and a desire to help others around you. When we serve others, we are reminded that we are a part of something bigger than ourselves, and that we must put the needs of others ahead of our own needs.

The fact that you have elevated yourself above the others assures that others are obliged to respect and adore you. By constantly looking down on everyone and everything, you are restricting your ability to see things from a different viewpoint. It's a huge blunder on one's part. Do not lose sight of the fact that you have the ability to make a difference, and do not get preoccupied with your own ego-enhancing potential. The quality of humility is one of the most vital attributes for a leader to possess; nevertheless, leading with arrogance and self-importance only shows that the leader lacks humility. Individuals who are just concerned with themselves and who are only able to perceive things from their own point of view are always the most depressed. Continue to maintain focus by ensuring that everyone on your team has a voice, feels appreciated, and gets recognition that is consistent with their accomplishments.

Even though we don't like to admit it, our pride may be used as a weapon to do passive damage to people who have wronged us in the past. Our thoughts go to "I'm better than talking to you," while we look at the agony. We then came to an abrupt halt in communication. It's also possible that we've already confessed to ourselves that we've done someone wrong or damaged them, but we're too proud to say it out loud for fear of seeming weak or causing the other person disgrace or shame.

"Love and let go" is the right course of action in certain cases, but in many others, pride can and should be conquered, as in this case. Following a disagreement, two friends may find themselves drifting apart and never restart their bond. One of the primary reasons they haven't gotten back together is their pride.

Almost often, when two persons are involved in a conflict, and both have an interest in initiating or maintaining (or just not terminating) it in some manner. Tempting as it may be, we should rely on our own sense of self-worth and assert that nothing has anything to do with us. Even if we were not at blame for the breakup, we must swallow our pride and take the initiative to start a new relationship. The relationship is in risk of deteriorating even more until one of the parties steps forward and recognizes that their pride is not worth allowing the relationship to fail completely. It is very difficult to tolerate arrogance, which mixes an elite viewpoint with aggressive and even destructive tendencies. Arrogant leaders are unconcerned about the collateral damage they do as long as they are triumphant in the end. If you find yourself constantly tempted to help yourself obtain more, to be first, or to take more credit than you deserve, it's time to make a change.

In the narcissistic leader, self-esteem is dangerously high, to the point of being harmful. As a result of their belief that they are smarter or better than everyone else, they would want to be cherished rather than cared for. What are the outcomes? Vanity, entitlement, and exploitation are just a few instances of what I'm talking about. The most effective treatment is to reconnect with your commitment to others.

Now imagine being the one to go ahead and re-establish contact with someone you care about after a significant disagreement. It's possible, right? Consider the possibility that that somebody is waiting for the door to open before they may overcome their pride. Consider the ramifications of such a decision. Think of a circumstance in which two individuals are desperate to reestablish touch but are unable to do so because they are embarrassed of their feelings for one another. Only when we have meaningful connections with the people we care about does life become worthwhile. We find life much more mundane when we don't have someone to go beside us on our journey through life. Despite its many benefits, pride may be quite destructive in a relationship. It may keep us secure from danger, but it also keeps us confined in our own homes.

A fundamental component of successful leadership is the ability to express gratitude. Individuals who have inflated self-esteem, on the other hand, believe that they are entitled to every good thing that comes their way. Our attention is drawn away from ourselves and onto others around us when we say "thank you." Everything revolves around them when they are in the hands of a self-obsessed person. In an effort to ease loneliness and isolation, they position themselves at the center of every debate, initiative, and thought, despite the fact that the most effective treatment for isolation is the polar opposite of this.

As sad as it may seem, people often come to understand the high cost of pride only after the event has occurred. A prevalent assumption is that our life will continue forever. We anticipate that an opportunity will present itself, but our alternatives are limited by the factors that we have control over. In the absence of action, very little will be different in the future. Instead of allowing your pride to turn into regret over the fact that you failed to make an effort to reconnect with someone you care about, take action to rectify the situation. Take a step through the relationship doors that you've locked behind you. It is ultimately up to the other person to decide whether or not they wish to continue with the relationship. When a relationship can be saved by leaving the door open, going through it, and being the first to extend an olive branch, allow yourself to let go not because the other person is unwilling to compromise, but rather because you've had enough.

Having a strong sense of self-worth inspires you to put up your best effort and take delight in your own and others' triumphs, which puts you on the path to being a great leader. When pride is characterized as taking credit for one's accomplishments, feeling superior, or manipulating one's social network, problems develop. In this case, it is good to begin with low self-esteem and dread as the foundation for the difficult task of self-correction. Take control of your life from the inside out. When our sense of self-worth gets in the way of our personal and professional life, we may be experiencing a problem. For us, the task is not so much to march alone as it is to march in such a way that others will want to join us.

That's how you take the reins. It is a real lesson for everyone of us, even myself.