When the closet bursts open…

Most of us spend a lot of energy "holding it together" at work.?We want to have the answers, be the fixer, and save the day.?

But, if we spend all our energy shoving our big emotions into the proverbial closet, we'll reach those moments when enough is enough.?

The closet bursts open.

When our big emotions (and the emotions of others) come tumbling out, our goal is to stay grounded, regulated, and calm.?Only then can we effectively determine what we need to respond to.

In these tense moments, as leaders, we must do three things:

1. Observe (notice what is happening outside our bodies)
2. Listen (stay attuned to what is happening internally)
3. Inquire (ask good questions about the most appropriate next steps)

Slowing down for this type of emotional work is difficult but necessary to become people-centered leaders.?When leaders strengthen their emotional intelligence, organizations become safe places for individuals to bring their whole selves to their work, offering the best of their creativity, passion, and skill.

Even as mental health professionals, we're feeling it too. We're all worn out from "holding it together" the last few years. That's why?now?is the perfect time to invest in supporting your team's well-being.?Take a look at our training catalog?and book a live, therapist-led workshop for your team!

Sunitha Chandy PsyD

Founder & Lead Trainer at Artesian Collaborative

New 1-Hour Workshop: 3 Skills for Emotionally Intelligent Leadership

When things get tense, there are usually two responses - escalation or avoidance.?But what would happen if we, as leaders, stepped into those messy moments with our teams and harnessed the tension to catalyze positive change??

Our newest workshop,?3 Skills for Emotionally Intelligent Leadership, will teach you to lead calmly and confidently through tense moments with your team.?

Training Details & Format

• 1 Hour
• Live Virtual Session
• Unlimited Participants

Skills & Core Concepts Addressed

• Coregulation
• Soft Startups
• Opposite Action

How to Stop Negative Self-Talk at Work?

Negative self-talk is an internal dialogue that limits our ability to believe in ourselves and achieve our goals. Recognizing what negative self-talk sounds like and how to reframe it is essential for learning how to keep negative self-talk from holding you back.

Here are some examples of how negative self-talk might sound at work:

• "I missed the deadline. I'm so unreliable."
• "I didn't get the promotion. I'll probably never make it here."
• "I made a mistake on that presentation. I'm a failure."
• ?"If I take a break, everything will fall apart without me."

Read the full post on our blog?to learn what it sounds like to reframe these negative thoughts into opportunities for growth!