What's In Your Way?

Hi Friends, today I would like to invite you to introspect, what is coming in your way to achieving your goals? Is it really in your way? Or it’s in your mind? Intuiting, the question is like a pebble plunged in the still water. So let’s talk about what it is and how it’s impacting.

Often get responses like, it’s difficult to choose or sometimes no choice, it’s very risky, not capable enough, etc. If you have to give specific words to all phrases then it could be Four Words “ Choose”, “ Comfort”, “Confidence” and “Failure”.

1.      Choose: It has two dimensions

a)     Goal: Is your Goal is really yours? Most of the time the Goal we choose, itself, by external compulsion. Which may be, Boss has said? Society is pointing? Parent's/ Spouse's wish? Peer’s succeeded? Fact is most of the time the goal we carry really not owned by us. We are just carrying them and here I am wondering if something is not mine, what will drive me to move ahead?

b)     Choices: You may hear, we say “what to do, No Choice?” Do you really believe that we don’t have choices or it is something else? I am thinking if it is a fact then, whatever we are opting or stepping in to do, is coming from where?

2.      Comfort: Actually it’s the state of being acquaint. Where everything is known to us even if its unsatisfying results. This is always everyone’s favorite zone and very close to heart like using a specific pillow to sleep, restaurant, a place to work, etc. Here my curiosity is that if we are so complexant in this so-called state of the comfort zone, how are we going to expand our learning? How the new will fit in?

3.      Confidence: Looking at this word with a wider and different perspective. It comes on the surface of any personality with very deep-rooted values, believes and faith. They all come together and initiate our actions, which we termed as confidence. By saying this, my question is what’s our mode of aprepitant to check the roots of our confidence? How we assess that all are supporting us consistently in all circumstances?

4.      Failure: If we do survey 96% of people will say “failure” is a big obstacle. I am wondering what this failure actually is? A scorecard or it’s an emotion. What makes people think to say “if fail” and how strongly it put the things or other aspects on stake?

Friends, while articulating these questions about Choose, Comfort, Confidence, and Failure one thing is popping up very clearly that all these have one common thing and that is FEAR. In each case, it is fear which blocks the energy and takes a shape of these phenomena shared above. To choose what others has chosen for us, “fear of losing them/ fear of getting aloof”. To choose what I feel good, “fear of withdrawing support from others/ fear of losing rapport”. To come out of comfort,” fear of survival”. Critically the confidence gets shattered with the thought of,” fear of un-acceptance”. Camouflaging property of fear brings the thought of failure in all three aspects and brings darkness to the path of the goal.

Wondering, from where this Fear comes and exist. Is it genetic? No, it can’t be because the entire human race has progressed from unknown to known and that too is always evolutionary and revolutionary both.

Then the only aspect left, all these fears are external and learned phenomena for a mind. We got training to develop and live with these fears. Like one of the big fears about doing bad is “God will punish” another “Life is uncertain and death is certain”.This fear carries the power distraction and destruction both. Known results, that it makes us the victim of our situations.

What is reflecting here? Ultimately, what’s come in our way to achieve our goals? , it is only and only fear. But is it in our way or in our Mind? Seems time has come to accept that it’s in mind, which we have learned. It sounds like the remedy is in our control as what we can learn, can unlearn too. We can eject methods to deal with it too.

I hope, you are able to introspect and resonate with what happened with us in daily life. Our journey, if belongs to us then every step is our right to move forward. We can settle all internal obstacles within, ourselves, so that the avenue has only and only light to show our destiny.

Thanks for your reading patience

Vinita win