What’s Holding You Back From Leading Your Best Life?
Jack Kelly
Forbes, Board of Directors Blind, Founder and CEO of The Compliance Search Group and Wecruitr.com, Co-host of the Blind Ambition Podcast
We are our own worst enemies. Instead of programming your mind to be confident and successful, we mentally shackle ourselves from venturing outside of our comfort zones. We allow ourselves to wallow in harmful negative self-beliefs. We’re plagued with doubts about our abilities which manifests into failing to take actions and risks to pursue the goals you truly desire.
Some of the mental roadblocks include not understanding your strengths, weaknesses, values, and motivations which makes it difficult to set realistic goals or navigate challenging situations effectively. The fear of experiencing setbacks or not achieving the desired outcomes prevents you from moving forward. Procrastination is a big problem as you put things off, making excuses.
Deep down, you know that you are just delaying taking actions because you’re afraid that you’ll fail. Instead of charting your own course, you are too busy envying the achievements of others. Ultimately, you quit trying because you feel you can’t compete in comparison to a peer who has taken themselves to a higher level.
Reaching Your Full Potential
It's important to remember that achieving one's full potential is a continuous journey. By recognizing mental roadblocks, you overcome them. You can start by cultivating a growth mindset. A growth mindset is a way of thinking that emphasizes the ability to learn and improve throughout your life. People with a growth mindset believe that their talents and abilities can be developed through hard work, dedication, and learning from mistakes. This contrasts with a fixed mindset, which views intelligence and talent as fixed traits that cannot be changed.
Embrace challenges and view failures as opportunities to learn and improve. Start by setting realistic and achievable goals. Break down large goals into smaller, tangible steps to maintain motivation and track progress. Prioritize activities that promote physical and mental well-being to maintain the energy and focus needed for personal growth. Build a network of supportive individuals who encourage and motivate you. Identify your values, interests, and goals, and create a roadmap to guide your journey towards self-actualization.
Common Setbacks
There are common themes that afflict people. Golden handcuffs are a particularly interesting situation. You feel trapped in a job that pays well, but unhappy and dissatisfied with the work itself. This leads to decreased motivation, feelings of resentment, and a sense of sacrificing personal fulfillment for financial security. Many people fall into the abyss of constantly ruminating on negative self-defeating thoughts. Left unattended, this could lead to anxiety, depression, stuck in place or even falling far behind your cohorts.
Constantly comparing yourself to others can lead to feelings of inadequacy, envy, and hinder self-esteem. Impostor syndrome creates a feeling of doubt and self-sabotage despite evidence of success or qualifications.
领英推荐
What You Need To Do Now
By acknowledging the potential hurdles and actively working on overcoming them, you can embark on a path towards continuous learning, growth, and personal fulfillment.
It's important to remember that these are all common challenges faced by many individuals in the workplace. If you are experiencing any of these issues, seeking help and support can be crucial. Talking to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist can provide valuable perspective and emotional support.
Exploring professional development resources like workshops, reading self-help books, listening to motivating podcasts or taking online courses can help you develop coping mechanisms and build self-confidence. Implementing self-care practices such as mindfulness meditation, exercise, and healthy sleep habits can contribute to overall well-being and improve your ability to manage challenges.
Take The Next Proactive Steps To Succeed
Identify your mental shackles. Self-awareness is key. Reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. What negative beliefs or patterns are holding you back? Are you plagued by self-doubt, fear of failure, or constant comparison?
Constantly questions and push back on negative self-talk. When you catch yourself thinking "I can't do this," ask yourself: "Is this true? Have I ever surprised myself before? What evidence contradicts this belief?" Believe in your ability to learn and improve. View challenges as opportunities to grow. Celebrate small wins and focus on progress, not perfection.
Practice positive self-affirmations. Repeat positive statements about yourself daily. Phrases like "I am capable" or "I am worthy of success" can combat negative self-talk and boost confidence. Spend time visualizing yourself achieving your goals. Imagine the feelings associated with success and allow them to inspire you. Focus on progress, not perfection. Strive for improvement, not flawlessness. Mistakes are inevitable, but they are also opportunities to learn. Celebrate your progress, no matter how small.
Take action. Knowledge without action is meaningless. Don't get stuck in analysis paralysis. Start small, take concrete steps towards your goals, and build momentum.
Acknowledge your accomplishments, big or small. Taking the time to appreciate your progress reinforces positive behavior and keeps you motivated.Breaking free from mental shackles is a continuous process. Be patient with yourself, celebrate your wins, and don't be discouraged by setbacks. With consistent effort and the right tools, you can break free from limitations and achieve your goals.
Two things I notice are comparing oneself to others, and constantly being negative, It doesn't matter what others are doing because you can only control what you do to improve yourself. Everyone is unique and different. Stop being negative, and focus on the positives. It's not simple, but making those changes can make lead to immediate positive and long-lasting impacts.