What's considered a fail

"What is considered a fail in an Asian family, not a C, D, E but an A, because you should of got an A+"

A common joke in Asian homes... But to each joke there is depth...

Growing up our parents had [and still have] high expectations, are critical and don't give approval.

And this carries into adult-life.

We ourselves then become self critical.

We end up not telling our parents a lot of things, keeping secrets and not letting them see our fullest selves.

If only they'd give us or had given us the encouragement we needed.

Instead of the pressure or saying things like, 'are you sure you're cut out for this'...

The ones we need the most to be there for us are the same ones who make our lives so difficult, and that's really hard to admit...

And that saddest part of it all is.... the ones who put the pressure on, who have the high expectations, who are critical of us... are the very people we want to give back to.

If the pressure wasn't there.

If the critical eyes and words weren't there.

We could achieve what we wanted to in a way that was more pleasant.

But this is the real world! And life isn't like that. We can't change others, we can only change ourselves.

It's like they say, don't change the goal, change the plan.

If this is hitting home for you, tune into my free 3-part video series, it's the Asian Success Series which is happening inside my FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/298063087273357

The first video in the series is already up, with part 2 & 3 coming out this week.

Watch, leave a comment and invite your friends who need to see this.

Katy