What's the #1 predictor of a ?? happy and lasting relationship?

In their groundbreaking book?The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, John Gottman and Nan Silver delve into the intricacies of successful relationships.?

Drawing from decades of research and thousands of couples, they reveal the key principles that guide couples toward lasting harmony.

The Gottman Prediction

John Gottman’s remarkable ability to predict the fate of marriages after observing a couple for just 15 minutes is astounding.?

His accuracy rate of 91% underscores the power of his insights. But what is the secret behind any happy, sustained relationship?

It’s Not What You Might Think

Contrary to popular belief, happily married couples aren’t necessarily smarter, richer, or more psychologically astute than others.?

Partners who maintain a positive outlook toward each other—despite challenges—are more likely to thrive.

A Positive Attitude Radiates Through All Areas

This emotional intelligence manifests in short interactions. Whether it’s playful banter, romantic gestures, or shared learning experiences, positivity permeates every facet of the relationship.?

Gottman’s research shows that successful couples consistently outweigh negativity with kindness and appreciation.

Positive Intelligence Connection

In my work with my clients (and myself) with Positive Intelligence, I've seen how one's PQ Score (% ratio of negative thinking to positive thinking in general as well as in response to challenges) greatly influences their happiness, resilience, and ability to turn even the most challenging situations into gifts and opportunities.

This concept of Positive Intelligence aligns with Gottman’s findings. Both emphasize the importance of maintaining a compassionate, understanding, and loving mindset about others vs. judging them as wrong, bad, or flawed.?

When partners focus on strengths, express admiration, and turn toward (instead of against) each other in conflict or challenges, they enhance their relationship and actually deepen their bond.

Want to know YOUR PQ ratio of positive thinking to negative thinking? Click here to get the quiz. You'll also learn your top ways of sabotaging yourself and your relationships.