Whatever you do, do it well

"Always face your fears and take action, today! “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” ~Dale Carnegie. Reading books is what I love much more than spending time on social media Facebook or Twitter. Read about your field of work and read about life. Read about good people and try to imbibe good traits in yourself.

Reading about your specialization gives you an insight into your work which definitely boosts your confidence. Reading about life makes you a better person. Be a good person. Be kind and generous. This is an incidence where I helped an old lady on a railways station in carrying her luggage. I felt positive vibes in my mind for at-least two days. This builds your confidence a great deal.

Keep answering questions that matter. We are all human beings and we need someone to pat our back to know we are good. Answer questions. You'll know where you are wrong. But then, when you are right, the pats on your back will just make your day. This just puts a stamp in your mind that what you know is actually right or at-least worth something. Stay away from negative people or just learn to handle them. There are people who try to weigh you down, tell you you are not good enough. Either ask them to shut up or just don't bother being with them.

Stop finding faults in every other thing. There are small little things that bother us and we complain a lot. Stop complaining. Be happy with what you have. The line may seem cliched but is worth every penny. Stay funny, spread smiles. Be Happy. There is a thing I say, "Mastering your own world". This world is not your work or your family / relatives / spouse / bf / gf but is something in your mind. This is a world of your own. Only you have the right to make yourself happy or unhappy. No one can bog you down into believing that you are sad. Its just a choice of expression.

Finally, don't try to portray who you are not. Don't have any insecurities about yourself. You are good as you are. Believe in yourself. Endorse yourself. We often hear people and friends say “be confident man, have some courage…”, but like any other human skill you need to work on it practically, you can’t just be something you are not. So start by taking practical steps which will boost your confidence as you go further. It all starts with knowing yourself, loving yourself and respecting yourself. Take the time and study yourself, try to learn more about yourself, you will be surprised by discovering your hidden talents and potentials you never thought you had, it is just like knowing somebody else, you will understand about your passion, you will define goals in your life.

The more you know yourself the more you will believe in yourself, you will no longer try to win the approval of others, you won’t need someone else's opinion to believe in yourself and to see the goods in you and you won’t compare yourself with others. Remember that if you are hungry for attention and adoration of others, they can easily use it to manipulate you and you will lose your self esteem eventually. By doing the above you will love yourself more and more and recognize your values and your rights, it will then lead to self respect and valuing your dignity. You will learn that you should never lower yourself for anything/anyone.

Stop procrastination and start doing whatever it is that you always thought you might do one day. Stop waiting for the right time, this is the right time, if you think it is not, make it! Working to make the time itself is taking action. Face your fear, that is the only way to break the ice, if you are afraid of public speaking the only way to overcome your fear is to do it. It is fine if you don’t do very good at first (which you probably won’t), you will get better over time, you may master the skill, but if you don’t try it you will never know.

Keep your distance from people who bring you down, being in no relationship is better than being in a wrong one. Know your worth! When you give yourself to those who disrespect you, you lose. Your friends in life should motivate, inspire and respect you. Always be grateful for who you are and what you have right now, there is always so much to be grateful for and remember that where you are in life right now is a necessary step. Feel confident. Then you would know how to be. Cheers!