WHAT IS YOUR TOLERANCE QUOTIENT?

There are many things to get you angry and pissed through out the day.

There are many things people will do to you to make you pick offence.

Few people do it deliberately. These few people like rancor. It is just their weakness, like you have yours.

Most did not intend to hurt us or make us angry, but their actions do exactly that.

Come to think of it, there is this other group of people, they have lovely intentions towards us. They sometimes even take out time, money and effort to try to please us, but somehow, they still end up pissing us off.

What's left?

Why does it seem everyone is out to make us offended?

You say this too often

"It is my right "

"I am are on the right"

"I detest being cheated"

But then,

When you pick offence, your emotions are disturbed.

You feel unhappy about that person or situation.

and it doesn't end there. Those negative feelings spill into other matters, they spill over to your interactions with other people,

They affect your mood and countenance and make you more easily irritated.

Your loved ones, spouse or children might be on the receiving end. They wonder why you are so bitter and frustrated.

Your work also suffers. You are constantly distracted. You probably don't even know why you feel so bitter always.

Well, when you let 'everyone' and 'everything' offend you, you loose your own peace and become less efficient. Even your physical health is at stake and there is the high chance of dying a few years earlier than you should have.

What is my advise?

Increase your Tolerance Quotient.

Learn to let go off some of your rights that are negligible. Things that won't really take anything away from you.

The other party might not deserve it, but for your own sake, please do.

I mean, why would I pick offence when in a public vehicle and someone steps on me not intentionally (and possibly intentionally)?

it is a public place after all.

I reserve no kilobyte of my mind or thoughts to process such issues because I guard my peace of mind jealously.

No one has the power to make you feel offended. They can do things to you, they can do things you are displeased at, but you taking offence is a choice.

If you ever have a spouse or best friends with whom you shared the same values, learn to forgive them before they offend you.

This only means that you feel less offended even when you ought to be legitimately offended.

If however you have people you cannot avoid who specialize in offending you or rather displeasing you, (they displease you, you take offence), then you need to learn emotional intelligence to keep them at arms length. and deal with them in ways that you don't have to deal with them.

And if they are Christian brethren, you have more reason to not feel offended.

"Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye"- Colossians 3:13 (KJV)

To your continued Success,

I am Ebenezer Opeyemi Anifowose