What is your relationship with yourself?

What is your relationship with yourself?

How have you being with yourself?

Have you being with yourself compassionate? – means you can be with your suffering and have courage to do something about it, to change it.

Have you being with yourself loving and caring? – when you love yourself you will not allow abuse even mild one!

Have you been taking full responsibility for the parts of your life where you absolutely can?

Have you being open and authentic with yourself – to ensure that your beliefs, opinions are congruent with reality, with how things really are?

How present have you being with yourself, what is your inner dialog telling you about you?

Or

Have you being with yourself judgmental, blaming yourself, not feeling good enough?

Have you being with yourself frustrated, shameful, angry, guilty, impatient?

There is no judgment in observation so, just observe who you have being in relationship with yourself, bring to your daily awareness who you have being, not to judge yourself or blame others but to observe. To be able to identify what is working for you and what is not.

Everything starts with the relationship we have wit ourselves. And if we don’t understand ourselves, we will never understand others. This is harsh real truth!

For example, how you can be compassionate with someone if you are not compassionate with yourself?

How can you love someone if you don’t love yourself?

How can you be carrying if you don’t care about yourself?

How can you fully forgive and let go if you don’t forgive yourself?

You need to experience it first!

Everything in life is about experience and letting go of any resistance and I’m talking here about emotional experiences on energetic level.

For example, because you have been hurt in the past, instead of numbing yourself and shutting yourself down. You experience without resistance unpleasant, uncomfortable emotions, let them go, forgive yourself and others and then without resistance you invite Love, Care, Compassion back to your life.

Remember no one can hurt you, unless you allow it, unless you make a decision that the person that hurt you will control the way you feel.

This is why forgiveness plays such a big role in our life, and how effective and integrous we are going to be.

Healthy relationship with forgiveness means you mostly experience freedom from resentment, hurt ?anger, shame, guitl.

Unhealthy relationships with forgiveness indicate:

1.??????You often dwell on repeatedly bring up past events and you have difficulty to let them go, you dwell in blame, hurt, shame, guilt.

2.??????You may consider yourself forgiving but you resist to forgive yourself.

3.??????You may frequently try to move too quickly without learning the lessons, resolving any issues and bringing up closure. I was one of those people who quickly moved on, without connecting the dots and learning lessons. I can tell you now that there is so much power if you are able to observe what happened without emotional outburst and connect the dots!!

Connected dots are your wisdom!!

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4.??????You may let others to take your forgiveness for granted and others will take advantage of you.

Observe for yourself what is your relationship with forgiveness is it healthy or unhealthy?

And be Authentic with yourself, if you are not telling yourself the truth you are hurting only yourself. If you hide your shadow sides, you will remain stuck where you are and it will take you down.

See forgiveness is not a moral act, something you do because you mum, your teacher, your father told you to do. True authentic forgiveness is letting go of all emotional and psychological attachments to the events and people so, then you can free yourself from shame, blame, guilt, hurt.

Forgiveness is not about forgetting. You can’t forget events that will be inauthentic to say that you forget. Because it is your memory and memory without polarized emotions are WISDOM.

Your wisdom in your knowing, when you are not blocked by polarized emotions you also access to your intuition, because your mind is free at peace.

There is a lot of evidence backed up with research in science, psychology that the ability/inability to forgive will have impact on how quickly you recover from serios illness. And remember forgiveness is not logical process it goes beyond logic!!!

Doesn’t matter what you tell yourself the truth is that as human beings we have high level of autonomy (responsibility) and this comes with POWER TO CHOOSE.

Every day regardless your current circumstances you can choose who and how do you want to BE.

So, when you wake up each morning ask yourself:

Who and How I want to be today in relationship to myself?

Who and How I want to be today in relationship to my boss?

Who and How I want to be today in relationship to my spouse?

Who and How I want to be today in relationship to my kids?

Who and How I want to be today in relationship to money?

Who and How I want to be today in relationship to unexpected unwanted surprises.

Talking from my personal experience, you absolutely choosing every day who and how you want to be, and you are choosing your experiences either you like them or not!!

You don’t need to agree with me, but if things don’t work the way you want them to work maybe you need to consider how to change your ways of being so, you become fully aware of who and how you are being. ?

It Is your power to choose to let go and move one no matter how right you think you are.

You have the power to choose to prove that you are right or to do what it takes that will bring the right outcome. There is very fine line between doing what is right and doing what you KNOW is right!

Everything starts from BEING someone then you are going to do something and then you are going to have something.

If you want to know more about your ways of being and how you can change your experience in life, become more effective, bring back aliveness to your life then book a free call with me.?