What If Your Greatest Fear Is Getting Everything You Want?

What are you afraid might happen if you try and succeed? Go on, sit with that for a second.

We can spend so much time worrying about what might happen if we fail. What if we put ourselves out there and fall flat on our faces? What if people judge us? What if we prove all our doubts right?

But let’s flip the script for a moment.

What if you actually succeed? What if you get everything you’ve worked for, everything you’ve dreamed about, everything you’ve spent late nights and early mornings chasing?

Then what?

For some, that’s where the real fear kicks in. Not fear of failure - but fear of success.

Because with success comes change. And with change, even positive, life-enhancing, dream-making change - comes loss.

• Loss of life as you know it. Things will be different, and different can be scary.
• Loss of the familiar. The comfort zone might be small, but it’s predictable.
• Loss of the thrill of the chase. The excitement of the pursuit disappears once you’ve got what you wanted.
• Loss of certain people in your life. Some friendships and relationships survive success, some don’t.
• Loss of identity. Who are you if you’re not the underdog anymore? What happens if you change? Will you still recognise yourself?

This is why some people unconsciously sabotage their own success. They procrastinate. They downplay their achievements. They make excuses. Because staying where you are, even if it’s not where you want to be, can feel safer than stepping into the unknown.

But here’s the thing - you are not one of those people.

I know this because you’re reading this, and if you’ve read this far, it means you care. You care about your future. You care about doing things right. You care about the impact your success will have on your life and those around you.

If I were your friend, I’d tell you this: The fact that you’re even thinking about this means you’re committed to making sure you handle success well. The ones who should be worried are those who chase success without a second thought - without considering the impact, without thinking about what it all means. That’s not you.

So, here’s what I want you to do:

• Write down what you’re afraid of losing. Get it out of your head and onto paper where you can see it clearly.
• Look at what’s real and what’s just fear talking. Some fears are rational; some are just stories we tell ourselves.
• Decide what (or who) you’re willing to leave behind - and what you’re not. Not everything has to be sacrificed. Some things, and some people, will grow with you.
• Get to work. Because fear is not a reason to stand still. You’re ready for this, even if it feels scary.

Success isn’t something to fear. It’s something to prepare for.

And you? You’re more ready than you think.

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure."?- Marianne Williamson

Thanks for reading!

Adam

Author and Confidence & Self-Belief Coach

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