What if your emotions had a language?

What if your emotions had a language?

What are Emotions? Autonomous chemical reactions in the body. They come and go and often they are embodied.

Emotions do not need words or concepts. Emotions help us way before we can speak. When we fully have access to our emotions: feeling them and embracing them we can self-regulate better, we can feel others better and we can consciously choose our response to events.

In our daily and most importantly business lives emotions are often regarded as weakness or unprofessional. Crying or fear in the workplace leads to shame and we feel vulnerable. We are afraid to not be resilient or tough enough.

Emotions are often stigmatised and yet they are a treasure for us as they hold so much valuable information how we feel and point to what we need in this moment. What we need often energises us to act. Yet we often do not understand the message as we have unlearned to access, embrace and life our emotions. We are not aware and by this neglecting a lot of our own capacity. We just feel angry disturbed or irritated.

How can we understand and be in a balanced wave of energy in with our emotions?


  1. Anger is the energiser for change and a catalyst for action.?The message of anger: this is wrong. When we are balanced in our anger it helps us to create. When we are very angry makes us aggressiv and unfair. When we suppress anger we are indecisive, not clear and can not set boundaries. This is often the case as anger is not accepted in our society.
  2. Fear is the energiser for safety. The message of fear: this is horrible.?Fear helps us to focus. If we are in much fear we fear the fear and we are restless. No fear makes us unauthentic, without focus and taking to many risks.
  3. Sadness is the energiser for remembering what is of value to us. The message sadness hold is: that is a pity.?Sadness helps us to let go and accept in order to move on. Too much sadness makes us depressiv and passiv, unable to act. Too little sadness makes us superficial and unable to love.
  4. Joy is the energiser for increase and "more of". Joy intrinsically motivates us. The message of joy is: this is good.?We can foster joy by being grateful and focussing on the little things.Too much joy makes us naive, superficial and addicted. Too little joy makes us demotivated and dissatisfied.
  5. Shame is the energiser for social belonging. The message of shame is: something is wrong with me.?It gives us energy to grow, reflect and develop ourselves. Too much of shame makes us perfectionist and apologetic. Too little shame makes us egocentric and not able to apologise.

(source:?Tibelius-coaching.com?Die gesunde Kraft der Emotionen Vortrag am 8.7.2021)

What treasures do your emotions hold?

I found this perspective how to feel, localise, explore and cultivate awareness of our emotions extremely helpful. Supported by mindfulness and awareness based principles I can understand the language of my emotions. I can see the wave coming and I can deal with it. I can self-regulate. We can live a life so much fuller once we embrace our emotions. If we keep resisting we miss out. If you would like to learn more contact me:?www.planb-coaching.eu

Jamie Colston

I offer facilitation and participatory processes for complexity. As context allows including a personal, systemic, collective, ancestral and more than human worldview.

1 年

Thanks Stefanie Zeep CPCC, PCC??????. Reading this reminds me of the frame the Mankind Project (Men's rites of passage programme) offered, which was then layered onto a medicine wheel frame to include Earth, Air and Ancestors. Over lockdown I spent a time listening to https://www.findingourwaypodcast.com with Prentis Hemphill which gave me new insights in to embodied awareness, through the lenses of Blackness and Queerness. I live a life where I am constantly processing my emotional and embodied responses, these days with greater ease due to consistent practice and excellent teachers, coaches, mentors and systemic constellations work. My wish is that young people learnt this in communal experiences (along with may elderly who never had the chance to feel fully, due to the time and culture that they may have experienced).

Anna Momber

Speaker-Coach & Storytelling-Expertin | Verleihe Changemaker:innen mehr Impact & Gravitas | Actingtools für weltbewegende Pr?sentationen

1 年

I love the idea of using emotions as push energy! I would like to experiment with combining this approach with acting tools... I'll have to think about it!?

Manal Sayid, MBA

Humanizing Strategy | Helping social profit leaders navigate change through participatory planning that aligns their team, improves morale, and helps everyone buy in to the goals of the organization.

1 年

One framework I often go to is the ORID framework which takes us through an experiential learning process...much like you were guiding the client. 'R' stands for Reflective?– During this phase we identify or context our own situation to the subject, objectives or learning outcomes in questions.?It gets out their reactions and feelings towards the subject.?By having first established the facts and understanding of the situation by objective questioning; reflexive questioning commences a learning journey in relation to the topic.?E.g.?How do you feel about X??What was your reaction when you first did Y? This process honours the value of emotions! Love this. I have all your updates on notification and always appreciate the tag and the oppoortunity to reflect on these thoughtful posts. Thank you Stefanie Zeep CPCC, PCC??????

Rebecca Sampson

Human-Centered Sustainability Strategist | Facilitating Cultures of Care | Ambassador of Slow

1 年

Thank you for raising this topic and sharing your own story. It reminds me of Brené Brown's work, specifically Atlas of the Heart, which about the power in being able to name our emotions. It also reminds me of Tara Brach's teachings about difficult emotions being intelligent tools of awakening. https://www.tarabrach.com/awakening-through-difficult-emotions/ Our emotions have so much to teach us. Thanks for the reminder ??

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