What are you going to do with your 8.2 years of life?

One of the greatest benefits of writing is that you get to look back in time at the thoughts you scribbled down and relearn the important lessons that the Heavens had whispered into your ears.

Today was one of those moments for me. As I was scrolling through my journal, I found this post and was reminded -- once again -- to relish the journey of life.

This post was originally shared in the Storyhouse Fifteen newsletter.

// It started with Jonathan Gottschall //

“You spend 6 years of your life dreaming,” he says in his book, Storytelling Animal.?

2,190 days running away from our enemies, crashing in cars, getting killed by strangers, showing up naked in high schools.?

Our dreams are rife with struggle, and for good reason, says Gottschall.?

They’re stories that help us practice for real life.?

// Enter the rabbit trail //

79 years of real life

-(minus)-

26 years sleeping?

7 years TRYING to sleep?

4.6 years eating?

13 years working?

8 years TV’ing?

3 years Instagramming?

3 years vacationing

1.4 years exercising

1 year romanticizing (Not sure I even want to know what that even means)

1 year socializing?

115 days laughing

______________________________

= 8.2 years left to actually LIVE your life*.?

(Disclaimer: Don’t do the math. It doesn’t quite add up. But I’m confident that if we add an algebraic equation in there somewhere, then x (79-y) will somehow magically equate to 8.2.)

// Your exclusive invitation to enter Rabbit trail #2 //

Yesterday, I watched 14 Peaks, a Netflix documentary on Nimsdai (Nims) Purja, a fearless Nepali mountaineer who set out to summit all 14 of the world’s 8,000-meter peaks in just 7 months.??

The first guy to summit all 14 of the world’s 8,000 meter peaks was Italian Reinhold Messner in 1986.?

It took him 16 years to do it.?

27 years later, Kim Chang from South Korea took on the challenge. It took him 7 years.?

In an act of near maniacal sensibility, Nims Purja looked at those records, sized them up, and then decided he could do it, too. Only he would require a mere 7 months.

Everyone laughed.?

No one believed.?

They all swore failure.

But he assembled his team, remortgaged his house, dubbed his endeavor Project Possible, and put his doubters to shame. One summit at a time.???

I’m not going to spill all the details (because it’s definitely worth a watch), but clearly, when you scale summit after summit (whether you do it in 16 years, 7 years, or 7 months), you tend to get a little philosophical about life.?

I’m not sure if it was Nims or one of his sherpas that made this next statement, but it made me grab my phone and open my notes, because this is where my rabbit trails began to converge.?

// Life is absurd //

“Most of us are forgetting that from the beginning of our life, we are approaching death. Life is absurd. But you can fill it with ideas. You can fill it with enthusiasm. You can fill your life with joy.”?

It was a revelation Nims and his sherpas had experienced over and over again as they trekked each summit, and it became a clarion truth as immovable as the mountains beneath their feet: From the moment of conception, we are being knit together for life. . . and yet, somehow, at the same moment, we have also begun the process of death.?

This harsh duality not only shaped their lives. It directed their every move.?

// I climb every day so that I can live //

Of course, reaching the summit was exhilarating, and certainly, it was life-changing.?

“Your soul becomes a part of the mountain,” Nims said of the summit.?

But Nims and his sherpas knew that the summits couldn’t sustain life because summits (though alluring and beautiful) weren’t made for settling.

In fact, when they’d reach the summits, they’d find the same reality over and over again.?

The summit was too cold,?

too high for life to flourish,?

too atmospheric for oxygen to exist.?

So they did what every climber knew to do: They’d turn around immediately and start their journey back down the mountain.?

If you really want to learn how to live, Nims said, then you won’t find those lessons on the summit. Instead, you’ll discover them on the climb – the H.A.C.E.- induced delirium, the snow storms, the stranded climbers, the lack of money, the near project-ending blockade from China.?

“When you are in the mountains,” he said, “you find out who you really are.”?

Just like Jonathan Gottschall’s dream theory: It is the struggle that prepares you for real life.

// The Convergence //

If he’s right (and if it’s true that out of the estimated 79 years of my life, I have just 8.2 of them to truly live), then it all has me wondering: What am I doing with that time??

Am I trying to force myself to linger high on the summit where life cannot possibly flourish??

Or am I boldly and doggedly committing to the climb??

WHAT NOW?

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