What would people say at our funeral?

How would you feel about writing your own eulogy?

Here's mine I thought about writing it when was sick a couple of weeks ago and to think that I could have almost died. I am all good now thank you.

Only by facing ourselves, the good and the bad. Can we become whole? And that is a choice. Our choice. The doors are always open. Are we ready to look in the right direction? This is the question that I started asking myself.?

My life experiences taught me, that the physical place we are in is not a prison. Our prisons are created in our minds, In our heads. ?

?Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds?from the achievement of one's values – Ayn Rand?

?Our values in life bring us happiness.?

?Because I value your time here. Because I value you. I would like to tell you, my story. Today is a day that will change the way you look at life, your job search & career journey!?

My code of honor in life!

And now, I would like to share my eulogy with you!?

Recently after a coaching session with my mentor Russel, I was thinking about what it would be like to be at my own funeral and to listen to what my friends and family would say about me. ?

I was thinking about what people would say about my values and what I did in life.

Writing my eulogy was hard because I felt I had not accomplished anything in my life. When infact writing it made me realize how much I had actually done and how much more I can accomplish.?

I am so scared and nervous to share it with you, but I want you to understand how our values and purpose can drive us to living a fuller life.?

I believe this is how people would feel about me & I would read about me during my funeral!

My name is Fatima Williams. And I love my life. I am always grateful to the Almighty Lord and the universe that has given us, such abundant earth and beautiful things for us to live our life. I value each moment that was given to me on Earth. I value the amazing family, friends, and people I interacted with over the years.?

Like every other person. Even though I loved my life, I wasn't able to succeed for many years.?

I realized that the search for money and the desire to earn, had badly blinded me from living to my full potential, it stopped me from following my true passion and purpose in life to the fullest. It was not what I truly wanted. I did my duties as a great mentor & coach during my career, a dutiful?daughter, a loving sister and as an inspiring friend.?

I knew that I had come into this world with a clear purpose and mission in life: To help and inspire people.?

It was the year 1998, when I was 12 years old, my principal called me into her office because I had done something terribly wrong, and instead of reprimanding and abusing me like most teachers or any other person would, she looked at me and said:

“Fatima never let anyone tell you are not good enough or not capable! ?Right is right even if nobody does it and wrong is wrong even if everybody does it. You have so much potential and talent in you.

You are going to change many lives around you, starting with your family and that was a conversation that would change my life years later.”?

The greatest gift she gave me… was to be a “lifelong learner” to inspire people to their greatness.?

?My Journey of Self Discovery?

The education system was flawed. They did not teach us the practical skills we needed.?

The skills of resilience, courage, knowledge seeking etc They told us to get a degree, find a job and live as an employee! ?

I was an outstanding student in school. Always standing outside class. ?? but that conversation with my principal changed me for the better. It had me focusing on all my strengths and I started excelling and topping my grades thereafter.?

When I was 15 years old my father had a stroke and my whole world crumbled. That day, I stopped focusing on my personal growth, purpose or passions?and focused on career accomplishments, certifications, qualifications and fell into the corporate loop or so I thought. I stopped growing inwardly (Is what I thought in my head) and even though I was growing in my career I wasn’t happy!?

For many years in my life, I was scared to leave the job that kept me in the vicious loop.?Managers who abused my talents & skills. I could see it happening right in front of my eyes and I always thought to myself always, perhaps I wasn't good enough!

I never really appreciated the wonderful things, I had in life, the great blessings I was endowed with. ?

It was only when my dad passed away, I realized the importance of money, people, and relationships.?I wanted to impact a larger audience like him.?When my father passed away in 2014, I started looking inwardly at working on a plan to achieve my dream career goals.?In 2015 I learnt about things like depression, anxiety and panic attacks!

I wanted to inspire people to go after their life and the careers that they wanted because I was?not able to do it at the time or thought so that I didn't. I had noone to guide me on that journey and I never even tried reaching out to those that could help me, because I thought that was it!

When I started my career, I lived in regret for a very long time. I made up excuses that I never went to college like my friends did, even though later on I eventually got a master's and one of the highest qualifications in my profession. I always said I can't do this or that, I had responsibilities, when infact I could have embraced many learning opportunities and mentors who could have brought me closer to my life goals, the space I was in at the time of writing this.

But it was meant to happen. ?

I was scared to believe I deserved such greatness, happiness and successes in my life. ??

The unknown is a very scary place. So, we cling to fear, we cling to our guilt, we cling to our sadness. We would rather hold on to that than take a chance and possibility.

When we are living in fear, we are living in resentment, when are living in anger and impatience, the heart beats very incoherently (Dr. Joe Dispenza)

But when a person starts to feel more coherent, with an elevated purpose and emotion. The heart starts getting very orderly and very rhythmic, and it sends a very strong signal to the brain and allows us to start to relax.

I started pursuing this path in the last few years. I worked on removing all my limiting beliefs while being employed in a full-time job.?

I started to change my biology of living in the past present reality to living in a future and future present reality. And when we move into that future present reality, we are a new state of being. ?

I started manifesting?talents and abilities to impact my own life first. ?

I changed my emotional state from fear to gratitude.

I had to become nobody to become my future self.?I had to want nothing. I had to go to that place where I could remove the old self that kept me from shining brighter than I wanted to.?

But it was hard trying to change years of habits, behaviors, and thoughts and of course, the people I surrounded myself with. ?

?I worked on it every day. Every thought. Every action. ?

?I was raised by good parents who had good values and ensured that I got a great education, and I lessened their burden by studying well and getting scholarships. They were hard workers and they showed me how to value hard work.?

They showed me what a good marriage is and is not. My father had a great job and was a generous man until he had lost all the money on medical treatments when he had his stroke that made him unemployed for 10 years before he passed.

During those years I was running after the money, a corporate job with a good salary. One day he called me to his room?and started the conversation asking if I had any marriage plans. He told me about his mistakes, his pitfalls, where and how I can avoid failing in my life? He regretted not living up to his full potential. I was in my 20’s and of course, I thought he was crazy to say such things. ?

A week later he died. My world turned upside down.?He showed me on his funeral day that even if we do not have large sums of money, we can impact the lives of people and be remembered long after we are dead and gone. The queue was till the end of the street.?

My mother innocence taught me how we must expand our knowledge and how to understand people who are like her. She taught me how to be responsible to our family and duties. My first love in life was teaching and I chose this journey because of my school principal sister whom I talked about earlier, Sr.Rose Daphne, who was an exemplary example of impacting a 12-year-old life. ?The advice she gave me, was the advice of my life that would go on to manifest itself 15 years later. ?

By junior year I was already acting like a teacher. And decided with the persuasion from family and friend to study teachers training and become like my principal. I?had developed a passion for something else at that time. However, I was not able to pursue it as life had other plans for me when my father had a stroke. And this changed my direction in life. I was no longer following my passion to teach, but I was following my need to earn money, make money and provide. ?

I became like a 95% people out there and remained like that until a few years ago.?

During the pandemic I lost loved ones, and this was?my third brush with death.?

The pandemic taught me things I already knew. But I was denying all the voices in my head. The one that told me to stop wasting time and start livings and doing things that truly mattered to me. ?

Was I to wait for another crisis or trauma or disease or diagnosis or loss to finally make up my mind to change my messages. Why wait? When we can learn and change and state of pain and suffering, or we can learn and change and state of joy and inspiration

Even though I was earning money and providing value and my services to people, I wasn't fully happy. ?Even though I was impacting people and many lives I refused to give credit to myself. ? I realized I was playing the blame game. I had to take responsibility for my thoughts, word, and actions??

I had to let go of that person that compared myself to everyone and everything else.?

My true desire was?to help people realize their true potential like my principal did.?

I've realized I was indeed coaching people all through my career during the last 11 years.

I had infact used my coaching skills from day 1 of my career to teach & show people to their greatness and did infact get other people to succeed.?

Even though I had a successful career I failed at doing what truly mattered to me all those years. I woke up from the victim's dream I'd been having.?

Every waking moment and every intentional experience awaked my infinite potential within. The world is hard and cruel only to those who let it be so. And I let it be so.

Yes, some of us are forced into situations but always have a way out. Look for the true north. What brings one true north! True north is where we can be ourselves, shine brightly and use our talents to the fullest ?? True north directs our path pulls us forward.

Some of us need someone to guide us make us aware. Some of us find it on our own through various life experiences. To those who play the blame game the grass will be greener on the other side always. The valuable friendships I had the honor to make in my life often remind me, that every experience happens for us and not to us. Why should we play a part in that role (the blame game) when we can experience life in the now, by living to our fullest. We get lost with our true self, our talents and our abilities if we are scared! Where can we be ourselves, shine brightly and use our talents with our fear of success or failure? Success or failure is not the goal the rewarding experience that will get us to where we want to must be the focus in life!

I remembered my purpose and passion and the words my father told me a few days before he passed away.

Never stop going after what truly makes me happy. ?

I started to coach myself every day.?I used all my life savings and started to invest in many coaching and training programs.?

I didn't realize at the time, that these desires had since I was 12 years old would be the fuel that prepared me for my life mission to serve people. But before I could serve them and help a larger audience, I had to experience the highest, highs and the lowest lows.

So that I would have empathy understanding when I was able to serve them. During the last 12?years I worked in multiple companies gained so much life experience, joys, and pains in each step of journey. And when I was finally given a chance to be able to serve my people I did so with the best of my abilities?

?I become the rudder to help people achieve their passion in life. I continued to serve people until the day that I died.?

During my life I was able to see the ripple effect my words had on so many people,?this experience of serving people was most fulfilling?part of my life's journey. ?

?I was able to use the skills, resources, networks I built and gained over the years to bring people closer to their career goals and passion in life and to live their life to the fullest. I started helping multiple charities that aligned with my beliefs and values. ?

I'm also proud that I was able to love people that didn't believe the same things I did, which is hard to do it first. But as I grew older, I was able to see that each person is a child of God like me. Each on their own journey like me trying their best in their given circumstances. I learned to love them for the values that we shared as children of God and not judge those that did not share common?values.?

For those I am leaving behind if I could share one thing it would be this.?

You are unique, amazing, talented and incomparable. You are being called to your greatness in life. ?

?The first step is awareness, and the second step is to develop talent and third is to use the abilities put them into action. You have to use those talents to change your life and the lives of those around you.?

Be your authentic self no matter how many people think low of you or misjudge you or think you're not good enough.?

??All those lessons we learn in life are worth it. And the funny thing is, most of us wouldn't change a thing, would we??

?Where?we are,?what?we absorb within ourselves shape our actions and?who?we are. When all our learning, actions and skills come together to help us shine -?we become a visible and leave our footprints in time.?

I repeat this to people in our community all the time.

Our purpose led to thoughtful actions.?

Our thoughtful actions lead to meaningful experiences.?

Our experiences become our learning.?

Our learning become stepstones.?

Our stepstones become the path to our destination that will lead us to achieving our goals and living our life to the fullest.?

?That is how we find true fulfillment in this life.

It was an honor to knowing you even if was just for a conversation or just virtually wherever you are in this world reading this or watching this live stream and it was a blessing to have known you and be in your presence.

I can't wait to see you on the other side.?

Now that you read my eulogy, I want to share my current journey with you.?

The Entrepreneur Unleashed?

I surrendered to a mentor who was impacting people the way I wanted to. He was inspiring 1000s of people and what inspired me is that we shared the same goal.?

To inspire people, to help people achieve their goals and live their life to the fullest.?

?I followed his precise formulae .?

?I started putting my dream career goals into actionable strategies.?

?I learned the digital art of impacting an audience at a larger scale.?

?I got to network and learn from some of the best community of coaches in the world.?

?I started career workshops and webinars to help people go after their dream career!?

I now help people step into their true potential by using the power of their intentional mind to achieve great results in their career.?

The community we are building is called the Dream Career Freedom Hub for experienced career professionals & Job Readiness Hub for college students.

We are building a mastermind group?with experienced?career professionals and freshers who will together embark on a journey towards their realizing their full potential and achieve their Dream Careers with an Intentionality Mindset not because they have to, but because they want to!?

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