What we mean from what we don't say

It is all about the articulation, which is a quality possessed by a very few and the ones who have actually instilled it are in every way good communicators. But it happens sometimes that we neither mean what we say nor are able to say what we mean. Now the question is why so? there are probably two reasons....one- that we ourselves don't want the other person to understand or in a way manipulating the listener and second- we want the listener to know the sense in which we are talking but are not able to communicate well.

And in case of the second one we may say something inappropriate that it can even lead to an utter mess because what we say matters!! actually matters a lot. mankind has still not reached the level or extent to understand the context of a sentence beyond its superficial attire so being careful while speaking is must. Of course always meaning what we say is also not advisable cause somethings are meant to be hidden.

Some people don't know what they mean. Though sometimes it comes out of their mouth without conscious intent. Some people can't form what they mean into an effective communication. Some people keep what they mean to themselves. There are various motives for this: To keep people from knowing one's intentions. To avoid giving offence or pain. To deliberately mislead people. Truth isn't always welcome. I try to always say what I mean, or otherwise make sure that my message is clear when I speak. The key to being able to do this well is tact. Having a large vocabulary helps.

An example of this is that I used to always say that I'm good at seeing the flaws in things, and that mode of thinking made me unhappy a lot. Now I say that I'm good at seeing how things can be improved. It's the same idea, but from a more positive perspective. If my girlfriend tries on an unflattering red shirt and then asks my opinion, I will say that she should wear the blue one with the thingy because it brings out her eyes so well. Offer a solution to the conflict before it becomes a conflict.

They are either being politically correct or circumspect. They are afraid of offending someone or afraid of letting too much of the real data to spill out. If someone asks me what I think and I’ve kept it bottled up, I am afraid it will come all spilling out. So it's better to say what you mean and mean what you say. We're afraid that people will judge and ostracise us because of what we say. We want to fit in but what we say is a little different from what others around us might accept, so we decide to say nothing, or say what we don't mean.

I think because we are taught, and sometimes trained not to, as children growing up you are told to behave accordingly, don't eat with your hands, don't eat with your elbows on the table, don't speak out of turn, don't do this and don't do that, so if you are well trained , you tend to follow your training. Society likes well trained/behave citizens, so people won't say what they actually want to say. May be because people might not really know what they mean enough to make it clear to you or they're fearful of the consequences or your reaction or they're manipulative. Whatever it is, it's all out of your control, so let it be. Keep your calm!

They don’t know how to really be honest, and are probably too comfortable with lying to themselves in the first place. Because it leads to hurt feelings, bruised egos and bloody noses. Whether or not you tell the absolute truth about how you feel usually depends on who you are talking to, more often than not that person is not the one you are talking about. Whats the use. We have voice to say only when the things belongs to us personally. When we don't have any owning and the thing is already sold out. Cheers!

What actually to be told..it becomes valueless.

Our words and actions are criticized…happy with our downfall..so only we must not say what we mean and become cheap…

Instead we can take bad names like bitch stray cat..