What is a Tangible outcome when accessing my self-esteem??

Ok.. today I had an AhhHaa moment after a cool Clubhouse event ??

We were in a discussion around fear, how to deal with fear, and it leads to a place that we all probably expected. The audience wanted to know ways of overcoming the fear of semi-public opinion, do I dare call self-shaming. The point is they were intimidated by the thought that our industry or their friends and old colleagues would have a negative view of the green circle.. the LinkedIn profile option showing you are on the hunt for the next great opportunity. This lead to ways of developing confidence and the question arose, how?

I can understand the fear. I decided 2 years ago to leave a 30-year career as an executive convention hotelier, I'll leave by fun background to my LinkedIn profile.

The day I stepped off the property I was flooded with emotions. Truly no way to make sense of everything in the natural. I say it that way because I had a secret weapon in me. I was just learning that I had the ability to embrace positive loving energy around me. In my past life, I was very Ego based in my decision process. Basically, I had to be smarter, faster, more creative, intuitive, the best, no holds bar, you have to scrape me off the ground to get me to quit! Does this sound like you? of course it does. It works!!

However, I try to live a different way now and it has made all the difference in my quality of daily life.

Most people say, work-life balance.. but for me, that just means how to balance working harder at your career and working harder to raise a family or moving through life. What does it mean? That's where I was stuck after my long successful career, no time for me? Well, at least that's what I thought two years ago. So I'm on a life journey and found something very interesting. Because I allowed life to guild me, I started embracing life. Not stuff, or family or work, but for me. Things started feeling different. Like I didn't need to control so much stuff to feel comfortable. I actually embraced becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable. Letting go of all the control factors I had put in place over my life of 50 years.

I needed a new strategy, one that allows me to embrace all of me. You have heard the saying "if you want to change your life, you need to change the way you do it" I started a new process of going inside, instead of looking for external things to fix it. At first, it was just a hobby. A way of telling myself I was doing something different. You know, taking action!

Well the funny part is the more I started answering inside questions like; can I build a business? I can work and travel? Can my wife and I survive on less money while I rebuild our financial life? Is there a limitation to my efforts? All natural questions you have asked yourself, however, it leads me to can I believe in myself? This is the one I thought! Can I really depend on myself? Then it happened an inside voice said "YOU CAN DO IT" wow get shivers typing that.

My friends however you choose to go inside is up to you. That's the beauty, it has to be a choice You make. It's a journey you will never finish, once you start though, I can testify! Life starts to work overtime for you. Light starts to shine and you know there is a place for you and all you have to do is.. Be YOU! Work hard on yourself instead of everything else and before you know it Pow, your back in the Groove!!

I know it's sometimes a dark place and so hard to grasp around you for comfort. My suggestion is to take a walk to a park, remove your shoes, and close your eyes. Be with yourself and you're on the way!

I guess the epiphany was everyone was looking for a tangible outcome. I have found, I can't hold faith in my hands, but I feel it through love and light in my meditations. It's tangible to me..

God Bless all My Friends in The Events Industry - Especially those on the job hunt, we are here with you. Go get your life!!

DeanO

PS, my wife is a true saint. without her undying support during our empty-nest time of life, this journey was a no-go.. Love the people who love!

I needed to break all the chains of "I know how to live my life" to start new.. I find great comfort in audiobooks. Happy to share a few suggestions [email protected]