What is SUCCESS?

Many will be obsessed in knowing that a wrong decision can take you to the peak of success. How? Well it’s a secret of success which reveals that a ‘wrong decision’ can make a person enough ‘experienced’ through the learning path and with that in mind core one can make utmost use of a ‘right decision’ that will finally yield him ‘success’. Success is neither firm, fixed nor flexible. The need is to feel its captivated principles and distinguish the normal man from ‘nuts’. The story of success is neither made nor listened; it is just portrayed from the early man’s time till today and roaring further. Everybody has self concept - a bundle of beliefs, facts and opinions about themselves that is created by both external and internal factors. Apparently with the below mentioned lessons one can find a good blend of ability, boldness and courage and a perfect combo of hidden success in any layman:

i. Rise above your raising -Never to damage your self concept about yourself by accepting the tag of a ‘loser’, you are only messing up big time ahead. Try to step out of the prison of past and identify & challenge the dialogues one have with themselves everyday. If you suffer a terrible loss, give yourself courage and time to absorb the blow.

ii. Do a good job because you want to, not because you have to - Do not take problems as difficulties; think them as opportunities for action. Problems are like hard rocks on the river bed, if you need a flow-remove them by siding them with your full zeal & welcome possibilities.

iii. Idea is “positive thinking” - Avoid speculating about the outcome. Just forget it and go onto the next thing awaited. Leaving all up to the Almighty’s grace is what describes - ‘How to get relaxed’. One should learn the importance of giving themselves pep talks before or during the task accomplishments and to keep the voice vacant in head for the positive answer. Unfortunately our perceptual meters can be highly sensitive and negative too while speculating a ‘reward’ or a ‘rehearse’- Its human nature.

iv. Worry less and achieve more - Eliminate day dreaming completely. Stop building air castles as excellence would count on feeding yourself on own and not as for granted. We should keep the 24 hrs of our day filled with 4 ingredients: work, prayer, recreation and sleep.

v. Do not concern yourself with things you have no control over. Eventually armchair generals do not win battles; they only end up with nervous breakdowns. Sitting around and thinking about loss is the worst thing one can do to solve their problems.

vi. The basic rule of thumb: “Panic makes a small fumble worse” -
If a project seems too big, break it up into simple steps of action. Then negotiate those steps as ‘links’ in a ladder one at a time. And do not allow yourself to think about any possible difficulties of step number ‘two’ until you have executed step number ‘one’.

vii. Don’t be the ‘spoil sport’ - Do not procrastinate: putting off an unpleasant task until tomorrow simply gives you more time for your imagination to make a mountain out of a possible mole hill. Postponing of action can be horrendous spell; allow air of ability, courage and boldness endowed with leadership. This symbolizes like-flying without wings still reaching destination with imagination.

viii. ‘What a payoff’- Get up as soon as you wake up. If you lie in bed, you may use up as much nervous energy living your day in advance as you would in actual accomplishment of the day’s work. Your body language and attitude confer the active signals. Don’t sleep in fear, boost your morale out of bed; reach up to an honest but bold conversation with yourself; if you are being lazy, admit it and do something. ‘One doesn’t do things to dazzle someone but to build confidence in advance of victory’. Trying out hard for success but at ease is the real dosage.

ix. Hurry, a blood brother to worry, a sister to curry - Plan efficiently and try to arrange your schedule so that you will not have to hurry. If you miss your first serve, don’t set a gloomy stage of ‘no second faults’, instead tell yourself - “Get It In”. Place your eyes firm on the goal without any possible jerks; productive optimism will work here. Hats off to the “Plan before your begin” and don’t try to decompose your work with the mess on editing table.

x. Do not pour your woes and anxiety to people- For instance-explaining away the pain, blaming your unhappiness on your spouse/friend results in poisoning your self beliefs. And if a person is not being true to themselves-he/she gets frustrated, unhappy and pity less before the world.

Success is not measured indoors, it is valued outdoors. One doesn’t need to advertise his or her abilities and intelligence; it shines on its own. Successes are what produced and filtrate from inner beliefs and self confidence and which yes-nurtures ‘recognition’; but recognition itself does not need to be a big deal, it does need to be Genuine.