What story are you going to create?

A father came to me to coach his teenaged children. He started telling that his children do not ask questions in the class and have to be asked several times to dig out answers from them. Like everyone else, the father expected his children to be active, smart and vocal. I was happy to see he was not differentiating between boy and girl, at least in that moment. I asked several questions to the young students and every time, it was the father who responded without even waiting for his children to answer. You see what's happening at their home and it's not the story of only their home. Situation is even worse at schools. The classes usually have students, anywhere between 40 to 50 in number and a single teacher is responsible to teach a subject with loads of information and ever increasing syllabus. The communication is mostly one sided, the teacher do not have time or resources to find out if the students have understood the concept. A few answers from the class are sufficient for the teacher to move ahead and those answering voices are the same most of the time. The most common response youngsters receive is "keep quite", at school and at home and the expectation is what I mentioned above, both from teachers as well as parents. Not blaming anybody as all are short of time and doing the best they can. That's the reason situation is changing but the pace is real slow.

Lets talk about the working professionals, whether in jobs or entrepreneurs. They actually start learning the important subjects only when come out of the schools and colleges. The most important subjects of life; finances, health and relationships, career and inner self. They deal with all three with the conditioning and experiences they have since childhood; at home, at school, with friends, from the society. They are now asked and pushed to think out of the box after they were forced to live within the box since beginning and for a long time. They eventually learn as human capabilities are immense but a lot of time is wasted in falling and getting up. Imagine if they knew there is already a way to save those precious years of life and the struggle can be reduced. The amazing thing about us is, even if some fall prey to the injuries of falling again and again, some do better than others in one area of life. Some are able to create their own incredible stories which inspire others for the times to come.

My mentor says that nobody can change you, but you can. This made me think that if I am the only person who can bring a change in my life and I am the one who is responsible for my success and failure, then why should I have a mentor or a coach. Why should I follow somebody if the person cannot bring a transformation in me? It took me a long time to understand the actual meaning of the words. My mentor also says that people may fail but a success system does not, it works every single time. He made me understand the power of the system that the successful professionals follow which changes the mindset and gives inner transformation every single time. One of my clients had a long time desire of being confident while delivering speech in front of his own employees. He always used to leave that part to his other partner. Just being into 2 weeks of following my system, he exclaimed that it made the goal easy for him.

What is that story you want to create? What system do you follow to create one?