What should you wear to a funeral?

Funerals are important.? We all know that.

They become really important when you’re in the receiving line because people are coming on behalf of a loved one who has passed.

I’m going to tell you the truth.

When you stop at a wake or attend a funeral, the family notices what you’re wearing.

Did you just “pop in” best you could?? Your clothes will tell the story.? Did you prioritize it in your schedule, out of respect and appreciation for the family and the person who has passed?? Your clothes will tell the story.

I’ll never forget my mother’s wake a few years ago.

I specifically remember one man.? He is my mom’s age and has done exceptionally well growing a family enterprise to the next level.? And in terms of an enterprise, we’re talking about top line sales not with an M but with a B.? He’s a well known figure and a pillar in the community.

He was wearing wrinkled khakis and a sloppy button down shirt.? He could have worn this same clothing to do light yard work.

I can hear the comments…”Tim, isn’t there something to be said for fitting in or “being a man of the people?”? “Tim, I can count on one hand how many men were wearing coats and ties.”? “Tim, isn’t the gift of someone’s presence more important than what they’re wearing?”

I’ve heard it all before.

Yesterday I decided to sound off on this as I learned a long time client had passed away.? I cried as the spouse notified me.? My mind went to thinking about his funeral, then I thought of my mom and her funeral, then I thought of my clients and their clothing at funerals, and then I remembered this very successful, sloppy businessman in line at my mom’s wake.

If you’re going to attend a wake or funeral, I’m urging you to consider what you are communicating to the family, to yourself, and to the gift of life we’ve all been given with what you choose to wear.? If in that consideration you don’t ponder a coat and a tie, I’d be surprised.