What should we do when we are misunderstood by others?

Everyone of us want to be understood by others, but sometimes we might be misunderstood by our boss, our friends, our family members, our customers or even strangers. What should we do if we meet such kind of situation?

我们每个人都希望被别人理解，但有时我们可能会被老板、朋友、家人、顾客甚至陌生人误解。如果遇到这样的情况，我们该怎么办？

Firstly, improve our communication skill, and make others understand us better.首先，提高我们的沟通技巧，让其他人更好地了解我们。

Communication is an important skill we should learn, we should pay much attention to our attitude, mood, or frequency, it will make others understand us much better. What’s more, we need to find a good way to communicate, for example, face to face, by phone, by Email, etc. At the beginning, if we are not familiar with each other, better talk face to face or make a phone call to understand each other well. 

交流是我们应该学习的一项重要技能，我们应该注意我们的态度、情绪或频率，这样才能让别人更好地了解我们。更重要的是，我们需要找到一个良好的沟通方式，例如，面对面，通过电话，通过电子邮件等。一开始，如果我们不熟悉对方，最好面对面交谈或打电话了解对方。

Secondly, keep silence. I don’t mean we should lock up our heart and refuse to communicate, I mean when explanation is useless, we don’t need to explain any more, but do something to prove ourselves, finally we will get a satisfactory result.   

第二，保持沉默。我不是说我们应该锁定我们的心，拒绝沟通，我的意思是当解释是无用的，我们不需要再解释，而是做一些事情来证明我们自己，最后我们会得到一个满意的结果。

Thirdly, when misunderstood by others, bad feelings will come out, so we must find a good way to let it go, otherwise it is not good to our health. If we are ill, bad feeling will become worse, it is a bad circle, so we need to stop it.

第三，当被别人误解时，坏情绪就会出来，所以我们必须找到一个好的方法去释放它，否则对我们的健康不利。如果我们生病了，不好的感觉会变得更糟，这是一个坏循环，所以我们需要停止它。

We can do some exercise, go fishing, go swimming, go to cinema, watch a football game, etc. to divert our attention. It’s very effective.

我们可以做一些运动，去钓鱼，去游泳，去看电影，看足球比赛等等。非常有效。

Fourthly, when misunderstood by others, we might feel uncomfortable, gloomy, and even painful. If almost everyone misunderstand us, we need to reflect on our own behavior, and if it is our own problem, we need to change ourselves, and make others understand us better.

If we can not change the world, change ourselves first, then the world will change accordingly.  

第四，当被别人误解时，我们可能会感到不舒服、沮丧甚至痛苦。如果几乎每个人都误解我们，我们需要反思我们自己的行为，如果这是我们自己的问题，我们需要改变自己，让别人更好地了解我们。如果我们不能改变世界，首先改变自己，那么世界就会随之改变。

Last but not the least, if we want ourselves to be understood by others, we need to understand them first.

最后但并非最不重要的是，如果我们想让别人理解我们，我们首先需要了解他们。

Good understanding is based on mutual understanding. Mutual understanding is based on good communication by heart.So if someone doesn’t understand us, we need to stand on his point of view, and try to understand him first, if you can do it and completely understand him, he might do it, too.

好的理解是建立在相互理解的基础上的。相互理解是建立在良好的沟通基础上的。所以，如果有人不理解我们，我们需要站在他的立场上，首先要理解他，如果你能做到，完全理解他，他也可能这样做。