What is meant to be, will be!

I have read somewhere that there is a phrase in Quran, “What is meant for you, will reach you even it is beneath two mountains, What is not meant for you, won’t reach you even if it is between your two lips”. If it’s meant to be, it will be. So, don’t waste your time wondering why can’t I be with someone. Give all the relationships an honest try but don’t cling to it like a parasite. With time, you have to learn to change, moving forward. By moving ahead you will find the one you always desired for.

Sometimes we do not see the odds of something happening and it turns out it was right there all along. In other cases just because if its meant to be does not mean you will go to give a exam with out any prior preparation and think if am supposed to clear the exam i will, you have to study. And in cases of love if you have given enough and still not working out then maybe you should let it go. If its yours, it will be back and was meant to be.

However one gets to see far to many young people in relationships that are obviously not going to turn out well. For example, one of the couple might be unfaithful, but the faithful one loves the unfaithful one. The reality is, you can love another, wiser choice. I think that when you do make a commitment, it should be for a lifetime. But before you make that lifetime commitment, you should exhibit good sense and find somebody better if the person you are with is not right for you, even if you love them. You can love a jerk, but maybe it would be better to find somebody nice to love.

We often hear that in life, everything happens because of decisions we make. But will the person just magically become your partner because it’s meant to be? No. You need to ask the person out. You need to make the decision. Will the person stay happy and in love just because it’s meant to be? No. You need to make the decision to do things to make them happy and continuously pursue them.

If two people are meant to be with each other, then I wish them every success in their quest, however, I think we should be more concerned about the ones we meet in the interim that we are most definitely not meant to be with, and which unfortunately tends to stymie any further search. After failure of first relationship in case of one of my friend, all he had to say about the first one was, well she was not my type anyways, and when I said oh come on, you are just not in her league either. I know today she’s shy type and a bit bashful right now, but once she has found her confidence after she’s been married to you for a couple of years, she’ll quickly recognise the error of her ways and it will only be a matter of time before she divorces you and marries the guy she was always supposed to be with. He stopped talking with me.

Some times it also happens that a couple separates mutually and later reconnects with each other. When they get reconnected most recently, both of them would be in a more stable place both personally and emotionally as well. They were also both older enough to know what exactly they wanted and not to play games with each other any more. And today they have been married for 2 years now, and it's been awesome going on for them.

So yes, this statement in the title is true in my experience. But I can't speak to anyone else's situation. I do believe that circumstances and compatibility are huge factors in whether two people can make it. We both matured significantly in our off time, which made another chance possible. The best advice I can give you is don't worry about whether you get back with this person or not and focus on working on yourself. If it happens, great. If not, that's okay too.

It is a nice idea that everyone has someone that they are perfect for, a perfect pair. The compatibility between two people is real, the chemistry is real, but for one being made for the other? I don’t really think that. Again, I’m as skeptical as it gets. I think you have to work hard in a relationship, even if it is with someone compatible or not, to overcome hardships that may come. So I would personally say that it’s not really true.

When they first got together, it was a matter of choice. When they were together, it was a matter of choice. When one or both of them ended the relationship, it was a matter of choice, and if they choose to resume the relationship, that will be a matter of choice too. Once people make these choices to be together, that’s where the work starts. Being together means working at it everyday. All that magic “meant to be together” is nonsense, and it is dangerous. It gives people the right to act irresponsibly towards one another. You have to work at it. Successful relationships are not written in the stars but they have to be made both ways. Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre #possessedbywritingspirit