WHAT IT MEANS WHEN HE PULLS AWAY FROM YOU
When this happens, it can be a very emotional time - we are hurt, feel rejected and our self-esteem can take a dive....
However, if we can have a basic understanding of WHY they pull away it can really help us navigate, maybe sidestep a similar situation in the future and still keep our hearts open to love!
Here are some thoughts on the subject:
- It was simply not the right person for you. And, don’t forget, us ladies also pull away when we know it is not working, sometimes with explanation, sometimes not.
- HE has not yet healed from a relationship hurt and is NOT READY.
- He is just coming out of a long-term relationship and is a "dating newbie" - and needs to figure out what he doesn't want - to know what he wants.
- Sometimes, when there is a connection and he pulls away anyway, it is because he may need to rebuild testosterone after filling up with oxytocin (produced from connecting). He may be back - but super-important to let him be. And - keep focusing on enjoying YOUR LIFE.
5. Men are hardwired to want SEX first and if we give it to them too quick (in 1st few dates, before a real connection), men often lose interest and maybe even respect.
6. If a man comes on strong with tons of compliments, etc., it can be a danger signal and may not last. It is a way to get closer to having sex. But a guy who moves forward with you slowly, in a methodical way, as he is working out his own feelings towards you (that may be scary to him) - this dude has good possibilities.
7. If you are with a guy who is recently out of a relationship, he is probably not ready for a serious relationship and simply wants to explore and have fun.
When men pull away, it can be difficult to take, but hopefully this article helps your understanding of the situation you may be facing. And, if you are still feeling unable to move beyond a recent breakup, seeking professional council through a therapist or coach can bring some real breakthroughs for healing and getting ready for the next relationship. We all deserve beautiful love!
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