What it means to be FREE?

What is FREEDOM?

My understanding and perception of freedom is very different to majority of people. What I think and see that majority of people think they are FREE, but the truth is that they are NOT FREE! They live in illusion that they are FREE.

We live in a FREE word, in majority of places but we are not using FREEDOM that has been given us from birth, FREEDOM to feel and think what we want! This is how I see FREEDOM and it is number one values in my life!

Freedom is being free from emotional baggage, it is being FREE from the role of Judge and Victim, it is being FREE from false belief system and society expectations. Being FREE for me means to live with my heart desires and not trying to please someone else’s expectations consciously or unconsciously.

?Free to say what I want to say, Free to say ?“YES” or “NO” to anything or anyone that is not aligned with my highest values, and my non-negotiables, ?because I’m not attached to anything or anyone I’m here to create and I believe there is infinite possibilities, so I can dance with whatever comes ??

What gives me this FREEDOM is fully understanding myself who I AM, My Values, The power of my Mind and my BRAIN!!

You don’t need to agree with my truth but if you really think about what I say you will see that majority if people are not FREE, they live in fear of rejections, fear of not being accepted by someone, fear of being judged, fear of being vulnerable, fear of losing something or someone, not feeling worthy enough –

Do you think this is FREEDOM?

I don’t think it is FREEDOM!

Imagine living your life without fear of being judged by others (bosses, co-workers, friends and so on) You no longer rule your behavior according to what others may think about you. You are no longer responsible for anyone’s opinion. You have no need to control anyone, and no one controls you either. You don’t have the need to be right and the need to make anyone else wrong!!

You love, accept and respect yourself with all your flaws, uniqueness and insecurities and you respect and accept everyone else.

This is not easy to achieve without understanding who you are, what is your purpose here, and it starts with your values!!!

You know what you want, what you don’t want and when you want it and you are FREE to create ??

If you heart is closed and you are caught up in emotional baggage of frustration, fear, resentment, anger, disappointment, jealousy, embarrassment, shame, guilt, sadness – you are NOT FREE!!

There is no energy in the heart and no energy in the brain to create. Your heart is sending very incoherent message to the brain, your brain perceives danger and activates “Amygdala” “ Fight or Flight” system and it rules YOU , there is no time to think , so you are just like poppet dancing in your fears and insecurities trying to avoid not seeing the upside to what you are avoiding and trying to seek immediate gratification not seeing the downside to what you are seeking.

You are not speaking your truth!

At the level of the broader perceiving “Soul” nothing is missing in your life. AT the level of your narrow perceiving senses things appear to be missing. Your intuition talking to you all the time guiding you, but you can’t hear it, you are caught up in your emotional baggage trying to survive to prove yourself, to get more of you what you don’t need, to make someone else wrong.

In our society we crated so many labels, we label everything and everyone!

Nothing is ever good or bad it is just “What it is” so there is no bad emotions or good emotions. We have unpleasant emotions, and they are nothing more then feedback mechanism to get you back to your authentic self to help you to balance your perception, you just don’t see it and label them as bad in some cases getting quick fix with medication which is not going to help you in a long run!!!

Let’s look at Anger for example

You set expectation either it is at home or at work and your expectations hasn’t been met. So, you get angry feeling betrayed blaming and judging the other person for not meeting your expectations. You may feel frustrated and depressed all because:

First – you didn’t make agreements!

Second – more likely you expect them to live outside of what they value most, because you don’t even know what they value you are not even clear what you value the most.

So, then Anger is due to unmet expectations. So, if your expectations are unrealistic, you are most likely to be angry because others aren’t meeting those unrealistic expectations. Your anger activates your sympathetic nervous system that results in a Fight of Flight response.

Your blood sugar increases, your muscles get tense and get tight, your digestive system shuts down, your testosterone goes up, you get more aggressive living in survival.

Instead, it is just simple feedback to let you know that your expectations are not realistic!! You are not FREE you let your anger to control you. Every time you let something outside of you control you are not FREE.

What can you do?

First – make agreement everyone loves to be listen to, when you make agreement other people are present you agree on something together, you don’t just assume and expect it to be done!

Second – when you make agreements be clear on your values and also what other person value, because they will procrastinate everything that is not on their list of values. So, then you can communicate what you want in terms of their values, and they will be inspired from within to do what you want them to do.

We are very creative and very resourceful when we connect to our heart! When heart is open it doesn’t know fear or anger it knows Love, Inspiration, Certainty, Trust, Joy, Freedom, Gratitude.

When your heart is coherent it sends coherent messages to the brain and in response brain sends back hormones of oxytocin, serotonin your heart informs your brain that is safe to create.

When you approach every situation with curiosity instead of a threat, curious mind showed increased activity in hippocampus part of the brain which is involved in creation of memories. So, you draw on your wisdom without emotional baggage.

When you stop comparing your reality to what it should be you are more likely to love and appreciate your life!

Another scenario – when you for example infatuated with someone you likely fear their loss and you experience jealousy. In relationships when disagreements arise you want to find the pattern deeper issue instead of getting angry, judging and criticizing your partner.

So lets say as a child you were infatuated with your mum or your dad now in your relationship if you are female you are going to likely fear loss of your husband and feel jealousy, if you are a male it will be the other way around. So, if you are a female investigate your relationship with your dad.

Did he give you unconditional love?

Did you feel safe?

Did you feel significant?

Did you father behave in the similar way with your mother and the other way around?

If you are a male investigate your relationship with your mum.?In our adulthood relationships we are very often live emotionally with our mums or our dads!!

And again, any unpleasant emotions you are experiencing is just a feedback for you to go deeper and find the pattern, the cause. Don’t focus on the problem find the pattern!

To wrap it up

We are living in a feeling of our thinking. We don’t experience reality of our relationships with our spouse, kids, bosses, co-workers, money we are experiencing our feelings and thinking about money, bosses, spouses, co – workers.

Easy way to start is whatever you are perceiving ask

“What is the opposite side? “there is opposite side to everything it is called “Law of opposites” Same as “Low of gravity” you don’t questions “Law of gravity” you know it is there and you are not fearful that tomorrow there will be no “Low of Gravity” ??

Here is some question to help you to assess your false protective Ego mind

Do you get offended? if so when and how?

Do you always need to win?

Do you constantly need to be right? where it comes from?

Do you strive to be perfect in everything you do? Where is that coming from?

Do you find yourself always needing more, are you never satisfied?

Do you need to identify yourself based on what you have done, on your results and certificates?

Do you worry about your reputation and are you define by it?

Do you always need to have the right word?

Do you need to have immediate answers for everything, and you don’t feel good if you don’t have them??

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