What makes those early stages of romance are so special…

The initial days of romance… hmmm, yummy. Many call it the honeymoon period too.

So what is it that makes the initial days of falling for each other so interesting?

Sharing my scientific philosophy and my understanding.

The initial days of romantic voyage are often described as the best because they’re filled with a unique blend of excitement, novelty, and positive emotions.

Here’s why those early stages are so special:

1. Newness and Anticipation: At the beginning of a romance, everything is new and exciting. You’re getting to know someone, discovering their traits, and experiencing the thrill of the unknown.

This newness creates a sense of anticipation and adventure, which can be incredibly exhilarating.

2. Idealization: In the initial stages, we often idealize our partner, focusing on their positive qualities. This idealization can make us feel like we’re with someone perfect, and it’s a beautiful feeling.

It doesn’t stop there. We both bring our best selves and meet at the best places and at best of times.

Now that does create a perfect setup to create the illusion of being with the perfect one.

3. Shared Dreams: As the relationship is new, you and your partner often share dreams and make plans together.

This sense of building a future with someone you care about can be incredibly heartwarming.

4. Absence of Conflict: In the early days, conflicts are usually minimal. Both tend to focus on the good side of each other, not knowing how long we have been together. It is easy to let go of things.

The absence of major disagreements or issues allows you to focus on the positive aspects of the relationship.

5. Sparks of Intimacy: There’s a unique sense of vulnerability and intimacy that comes with revealing yourself to someone new. If you feel safe, intimacy is natural. Whether it’s long-term plans or short-term hookups, sex is always on the table and sometimes a lot of sex.

The conversational intimacy adds to the pleasure and makes even the sex better, way better.

This lets the brain release all the happy chemicals known to humans, like dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin. These “feel-good” neurotransmitters create a natural high, making you feel happy and euphoric when you’re with the person you’re falling for. It’s like a natural drug.

The reciprocity of opening up and being accepted can create deep connections.

The last, but I guess the biggest one for me

6. The Hope.

Believe it or not, but hope is one of the biggest game changers for humans.

With new romantic partners, we hope for a cure for all our life problems. That itself is the biggest motivator of all the ones mentioned above.

It can be the hope of newness, the hope of an ideal one, the hope of dreams coming together, the hope of a no-conflict life, and the hope of sex.

Anything that makes hope come true is like a reward, hence a continuous supply of dopamine.

While this is all so exciting, it does come to an end in most cases, and trust me, the bigger the hope, the bigger the crash.

Of all the failures, romantic failures affects the most.

May be the first one, the second one, or the last one. It’s very, very, very painful. For many, this doesn’t end respectfully, and then there is a lot of conflict inside and out.

For many, these could lead to trauma and a deeper relationship. Even if people move on, one part of them dies or remains hooked.

Then Why does it has to end?

Not both individuals are equally involved in such a voyage. Even if people start on clear terms, trust me, one falls for the other more, and the game gets twisted.

I call it a 2% rule.

In my last story, I covered about shadow identities.

Are we chasing our identity in shadows created by others throughout life?

Have you ever wondered why, even after 500 generations of agricultural society and 6 generations of industrialization…

Many a times, one or both not able to over come chasing these identities and the price paid is the romance of life.

It’s important to note that while the initial days of romance are fantastic, the depth and quality of a relationship often develop over time.

As a personal development and relationship expert, I can guide couples in preserving the positive aspects of those early days by maintaining effective communication, nurturing intimacy, and keeping the sense of adventure alive.

Being honest, even though I see these happening in front of me, I myself feel helpless when I was in such a situation.

I will write a detailed story about how this falls out and how the whole neurochemical system completely changes to stress.

In summary, the initial days of romance are cherished for their newness, the chemical highs of love, idealization, shared dreams, sparks of intimacy, and the absence of conflict.

If managed responsibly as we manage our education and career, this will create a foundation for a lasting, loving relationship.

Before I close, here is my humble request to all the readers.

Don’t make romance a game of sex. If you earn your partner well, “you could be living heaven on this earth”.