What About Love: Are they the One?

As the founder of an AI company that decodes human personalities and predicts behaviors to ensure the "right fit" – compatibility between individuals, teams and organizations, I often get asked, "How do I know if I am with the right person?" While the answer depends on individual personalities, here's a broader perspective.

Every relationship goes through a cycle. In the beginning, you fall in love with your partner. You eagerly anticipate their calls, cherish their touch, and find their quirks endearing. This phase of falling in love is spontaneous and effortless. That's why it's called "falling" in love. People often say, "I was swept off my feet," implying that love just happened to them without any effort.

Falling in love is a passive experience. But as time passes, the initial euphoria fades, which is a natural progression in every relationship. Phone calls may start to feel like a chore, touch isn't always welcomed, and those quirks that once seemed cute can become annoying. The contrast between the early stages of love and the subsequent, more challenging phases can be stark.

At this point, you or your partner might start wondering, "Am I with the right person?" Reflecting on the past euphoria, you might long for that experience again (‘love is a drug”), perhaps with someone new. This is where many relationships falter.

The key to a successful relationship isn't about finding the perfect person; it's about learning to love the person you have. Many people blame their partners for their dissatisfaction and look elsewhere for fulfillment, whether through infidelity, work, hobbies, or other distractions. However, the solution doesn't lie outside your relationship but within it.

You could indeed fall in love with someone else and temporarily feel better, but you'd likely find yourself in the same situation again. The essence of a successful relationship lies in understanding that sustaining love requires effort, patience, and wisdom. Love isn't a mystery; it follows certain principles and laws. If you understand and apply these principles, you can create a predictable and fulfilling relationship.

Love, therefore, is a decision, not just a feeling. It demands consistent effort and a deep commitment to making it work. Remember, while you may not control who enters your life, you have the power to decide who you keep in it.

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