What Is Keeping You From Achieving Your BHAGs?
A.J. Riedel
I help independent consultants build a business that is both financially rewarding and personally fulfilling?? 35-year track record as a successful consultant ?? Host of The Thriving Through Podcast ??
Issue 10 | March 27, 2024
Do you have a BHAG?
“What does BHAG stand for?” you ask. Big, Hairy, Audacious Goal—it’s a clear, compelling goal that seems unreasonable and out of reach, but something in you is bold enough (and crazy enough) to believe you just might achieve it anyway.
There's a part of you that really really really wants to achieve this BHAG.
But there is another part of you that doesn't think you should pursue this dream because it's wayyyyyyyyy outside your comfort zone.
Often, this part of you is stronger and more powerful than the part of you that is dreaming your BIg Dream. As a result, you may not making much, if any, progress on achieving your BHAG.
If you aren't making progress on your BHAG, chances are, you are caught in the Imposter Syndrome Cycle.
Here are the symptoms of Imposter Syndrome:
?? You aren’t any closer to achieving your Big Hairy Audacious Goal today than you were 6 months or a year ago.
??You often think “I don’t deserve to succeed”, “I’m not smart enough or qualified enough”, “I don’t have what it takes”, or “I’m not ready yet”.
?? When you sit down to work on your BHAG, you suddenly have the overwhelming urge to do anything other than work on your goal.
?? You’ve promised yourself that you were going to work on a BHAG-related task every day for a month? … but haven’t.
?? You often feel that you are incompetent or not good enough.
?? You often feel anxious, frustrated, or discouraged.
If you have any of these symptoms, you suffer from Imposter Syndrome and it is getting in the way of you achieving your BHAG.
Right now, you probably feel like you can’t do anything to stop an Imposter Syndrome attack.…
Or you fight against the negative thoughts and feelings, telling yourself you shouldn’t be feeling this way. …
Or you may push yourself harder only to find that your symptoms of Imposter Syndrome get worse the harder you push.
When you are experiencing an attack of Imposter Syndrome, the part of your brain known as the Survival brain (aka your inner worst enemy) is busy generating negative thoughts and feelings.
To stop the Imposter Syndrome attack, you must quiet down that part of your brain.
That’s what 2-step Imposter Syndrome Attack Buster does.
Here's how to do it:
1?? Whenever you become aware that you are experiencing the symptoms of Imposter Syndrome, immediately STOP what you are doing.
2?? Sit quietly and close your eyes. Rub two fingertips gently against each other with such attention that you can feel the fingertip ridges on both fingers. Do this for 10 seconds. Now rub all of the fingertips of one hand gently against the fingers and palm of the other hand for 10 seconds.
Chances are, after just 20 seconds, your mind chatter feels a little quieter and you feel a little more relaxed and peaceful.
Imagine how much better you will feel if you do this for a couple of minutes!
CLICK HERE to get an audio of a six-minute version of this Imposter Syndrome Attack Buster exercise.
Free Assessment
Imposter Syndrome is one of the tools your Inner Critic uses to keep you stuck and playing small.
If you are not taking action on your BHAG, if you are struggling with Imposter Syndrome, it's because you have a bossy Inner Critic who is standing between you and your goals.
How domineering and powerful is your Inner Critic? Take this Assessment to find out.
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9 Benefits of Taming Your Inner Critic
One Inner Critic Taming Affirmation
I love and accept myself, exactly as I am.
This is the single most important affirmation you can use. We've been criticized, demeaned, nagged, and berated by our Inner Critics for so long that she has convinced us that we are not worthy of unconditional love.
To get the most benefit out of the affirmation, say it to yourself at least three times a day, repeating it three times in a row. To make sure you do it, schedule it in your calendar so you don't forget (and your Inner Critic will try to make you forget to do it.)
Saying it to yourself over and over again for an extended period to time is vitally important because you are forming a new thought pathway in your brain which takes time and repetition.
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I'm AJ Riedel, Inner Critic Tamer.
I help career women advance in their careers, achieve their goals, make their dreams come true, and live up to their full potential by helping them tame their Inner Critic and unleash their Inner Mentor and untapped mental powers.
I had a really harsh Inner Critic my entire life. She cost me over $1.5MM in foregone revenue when I was running my consulting company. I desperately wanted to get rid of my Inner Critic but I didn't know how.
In early 2022, I discovered mental fitness training. Mental fitness training taught me how to tame my Inner Critic and unleash my Inner Mentor and untapped mental powers. Over the last two years, I have overcome my negative self-talk, self doubt, low self-esteem, and lack of confidence.
Today, I am courageously and confidently going after what I want in my career and in life. And I want the same for you. That's why I decided to become a mental fitness trainer and coach.
Are you ready to tame your Inner Critic?
Here are 2?? things you can do to start taming your Inner Critic:
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12 个月Thank you for laying this out so clearly!