What has love to do with everything in life?

What has love to do with everything in life?

If you open your heart to life, life will open to you.

We can refer to love as Care. love and care are intrinsically linked. So, just think if you really care about something you put all your attention all your energy on it, you are inspired in love, because you care deeply.

Even when things get tough you are resourceful, you have the energy to move through, you find your way. You don’t think what others will think about you because you deeply care!

On the other hand, without care nothing of importance can be achieved. You can not make yourself just with your thinking to care deeply about something or someone, either you care in your heart, or you don’t, either you love in your heart, or you don’t.

I think these days majority of people lost deep feeling of care, because they are stuck to much on survival and what can go wrong. So, then majority of people just ticking the box what must be done without care.

That’s fine there nothing wrong living this way but this is why majority of people are not feeling fulfilled and alive even if they achieve some of their goals.

When you care you just engage with the process for as long as needed and you watch how it unfolds in front of your eyes ??

Remember you will always get what you need when you deeply care, when you are in love with what you do. It may not be what you want and you will get what you want if you allow the process to unfold and that requires high level of care and love.

Love is seeing both sides simultaneously. If you are not seeing both sides simultaneously you will be either infatuated with someone or something or you will be resentful of something or someone.

Love is accepting both sides of you, your imperfections because we all have them. You can’t be one sided, everything has two sides. It doesn’t mean that you don’t want to grow, and you just accept your imperfections and do nothing about them.

It is the contrary you accept them and you grow from them so then you will have no feeliling of shame, guilt, resentment because you accept YOU. You will understand life itself and you will grow with life. You are not trying to put walls up so no one can see your imperfections.

Now, something important to note that if you don’t know how to regulate your emotions and control them, then they will run you and you will keep creating experiences of shame, guilt, unworthiness, not enoughness in your life.

You need to understand how to use Emotional Intelligence only then you will have access to your intellect. Because 95% of your doing is coming from your BEING, not the other way around.

So then if you are experiencing problems and difficulties in your life, you can do two things:

- You can judge and blame the circumstances so in this case you are saying I’m the victim my life is controlled by outside circumstances, government, doctors, employers.

-Or you can observe without judgment who you have being and then what you have been doing . And then ask yourself where I’m out of integrity with myself, what part of my being I need to change?

Again, this is not to say that you need to be submissive and accept what is happening and do nothing about it. It is also not about being aggressive it is about being centred in love seeing both sides simultaneously.

So, for example if I’m going to speak on neurobiological level what love has to do with your business either you are a leader in organization or a leader in your own business. If you are lacking care, then you will be more preoccupied how to keep your fake persona safe.

So, you will not be open (vulnerable) you will not be authentic, people will not trust you, because we can sense who is not authentic and you will not be expressing yourself fully. So, you will not be effective in what you do. This will also affect your intimate relationships maybe not straight away but in a long run it will.

Without love, care, compassion nothing will grow. Flowers will not grow without care and love, nothing will be alive without care and love. So, then if you want to achieve more you need to connect first with that feeling of aliveness, care and love.

This is why everything starts with YOU.

And if you Care and Love yourself you will also not be tolerating abuse even mild one. You will be aware of what makes you feel sad and unhappy even if it is small and you will be willing to be vulnerable enough to look inside and be curious to find out why and what aspect of your being you need to polish, what uncomfortable conversation you need to have.

This is especially for people who think that they are perfect and everyone and everything needs to be perfect. Well, if you continue living this way this is perfect recipe for anxiety, depression and unfulfillment in life. You simply live in illusion you created yourself. So, if it is you then get in touch with reality!

Perfection is in both sides of you!  

Now for example if you are not centred in your heart, you will be infatuated with someone or something. When you are infatuated, your perception is unbalanced because you are coming from lack and scarcity that you will lose something or someone.

You perceive that they have something you don’t, this just false belief you hold about yourself so in this situation you will be submissive, minimizing yourself. You may say “YES” too often and then secretly you will be resenting your “YES” creating unbalance in your central nervous system.

When your heart is closed which is the scenario above 80% of your blood flows from your prefrontal cortex to your muscles because with unbalanced perception you activated survival centre in your brain. And then survival centre is very primitive so it sends 80% of the blood flow to your muscles to make you fight, run and hide.

In this scenario you will not be having open hearted, vulnerable conversations about how things are, about how you feel, you will be avoiding not wanting to see the hidden benefits of what you are avoiding.

 This our biology and you can’t fight with it, you need to understand it if you want to be effective in all areas of your life.

Because 80% of blood flaws to your muscles then you have no energy in your brain to think and see things differently because you are in emergency mode. Executive part of your brain is shut down and you react to people, circumstances, you complain and judge.

Same happens when you are exaggerating yourself, then you resent someone because you are fearful of their gain, and you don’t see the hidden benefit of what you are resenting. Again, living is survival mode.

And don’t use your kids as excuse, in a way I can’t do anything because I have to take care of my kids, I have job, I don’t have time. I’m a single mum and I know that everything can be achieved in a balanced state of mind with open heart and care.

Now when you are in love with life, you care about yourself and what you do deeply, then our heart has neurons same as brain . Your heart also sends huge amount of hormone oxytocin which is hormone of love and bonding. Then brain responds back with more relaxing hormones that put your body in relaxing state of creation.

 That hormone sips into your survival centre of the brain and shuts it down. Now you have this extra 80% of blood that flows to your prefrontal cortex, and it carries nutrients and oxygen. Then another part of your brain opens “Hippocampus” your memory bank and emotional regulation.

When you are in state of love and care then you don’t waste your vital energy on judgment what should have happened, or must happened, or who has done what and what you  did do and didn’t do.

You care and you are in love, so you are just focused on present moment. You make objective decision you accept both sides. You use vulnerability as a strength because vulnerability is a strength it is never weakness.

You may not be able to see how everything will happen, but you care in your heart so you know that doesn’t matter how difficult it will get you are resourceful, you will find your way , you are open to life and life will open to you. Your trust yourself, and when you trust yourself, the others will trust you too.

We can’t deny the reality that we sense the energy of others, we sense when people are not authentic and put fake personas.

So, see behind everything in life is LOVE and CARE. You are choosing every day either LOVE AND CARE of FEAR and ANXITY everything is the choice you make.

You can learn how to use your mind and not be used by it.

So, choose LOVE and CARE in your life and everything you do. I always say that knowledge is power, knowledge is hard evidence. Without knowledge of who you are, your ways of being, without that awareness you will not be living fulfilling life, you will not be effective and you will be missing on opportunities in life.

And as fast as life moves and everything is changing in our lifetime, we can’t stop this change, so if you want to thrive and live life in a feeling of aliveness you absolutely must learn about who you are, your emotional intelligence, your unique being because life will go with or without you ??

And there is no shortcuts of overnight success!!  

Know Yourself!

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