What is Gottman Couples Therapy?

Ever caught yourself thinking, "Why doesn’t my partner listen to me?" or "How can we stop fighting so much?" You’re not alone. A lot of couples we see at The Therapy Hub are looking to improve their communication—something that’s key to feeling heard, loved, and supported in a relationship. But let's face it, knowing how to communicate better isn’t always straightforward.

That’s where the Gottman Method comes in. Developed by relationship experts John and Julie Gottman, this approach offers down-to-earth, practical tools to help couples strengthen their bond and navigate challenges.

So, What’s the Gottman Method All About?

At the heart of it is the Sound Relationship House theory, which is built on seven key components that can make or break a relationship:

1. Building Love Maps: Getting to know your partner’s inner world.
2. Sharing Fondness and Admiration: Regularly showing appreciation and respect.
3. Turning Towards Instead of Away: Responding positively to each other’s attempts to connect.
4. The Positive Perspective: Keeping a positive outlook on your relationship.
5. Managing Conflict: Handling disagreements healthily.
6. Making Life Dreams Come True: Supporting each other’s goals and dreams.
7. Creating Shared Meaning: Building a life together with shared rituals and values.

Watch Out for the Four Horsemen

Part of managing conflict is recognising Gottman’s Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. These toxic behaviours can seriously harm your relationship, but the Gottman Method gives you the tools to tackle them head-on.

Who’s It For?

Whether you’re engaged, married, considering divorce, or dealing with specific issues like infidelity or financial stress, the Gottman Method can help. It’s also inclusive, supporting all couples, regardless of background or orientation.

What Can You Expect?

Gottman therapy starts with an assessment to get to the heart of your relationship’s issues. From there, you’ll dive into sessions where you’ll learn and practise new skills. If you’re looking for a faster approach, marathon sessions offer intensive therapy over a couple of days—perfect for busy professionals or those in crisis.

Does It Work?

Many couples say the Gottman Method has transformed their relationship, helping them connect in ways they never thought possible.

Curious to learn more? Check out the full blog post for a deeper dive into how Gottman Couples Therapy can make a real difference in your relationship.

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by Marie Vakakis

Marie Vakakis is a skilled therapist and mental health educator who helps couples build trust, commitment, and meaningful rituals of connection. Her compassionate approach supports couples in deepening their bonds and creating fulfilling relationships.