What Fear Does to Us: A River Fishing Story That Changed My Perspective on Life

What Fear Does to Us: A River Fishing Story That Changed My Perspective on Life

Have you ever wondered how fear shapes our reactions to everyday situations? A recent fishing trip along the Nantahala River in North Carolina taught me a powerful lesson about how fear controls our lives - and what we can do about it.

The Unexpected Confrontation

Picture this: There we were, stepping out of the frigid mountain river, our legs numb from the cold water. What started as a peaceful fishing expedition quickly turned into an unexpected lesson about human nature and the power of fear.

As we approached the main road, we encountered a local resident (let's call her Ms. A) who emerged from an old shed, her voice filled with anger:

  • "Get off my property!"
  • "I'm calling the police!!"
  • "You're gonna get arrested!!!"

When Fear Meets Understanding

What happened next revealed something profound about human behavior. Despite the initial hostility, this encounter transformed into a meaningful conversation that exposed the root cause of such strong reactions.

The Signs Were There:

  • Multiple security measures on the property
  • Immediate defensive reactions
  • Constant vigilance and surveillance
  • Pre-existing assumptions about strangers

The Root of Reactive Behavior

As our conversation with Ms. A deepened, it became clear that her actions weren't about us at all. They stemmed from a deep-seated fear about:

  • Border security concerns
  • Past negative experiences
  • General safety worries
  • Fear of the unknown

The Universal Truth About What Rules Us

This experience highlights a fundamental truth about human behavior: Our responses in life reveal what rules us. Consider how different ruling forces shape our reactions:

  • Fear → Defensive and hostile responses
  • Peace → Calm and measured reactions
  • Joy → Open and welcoming behavior
  • Greed → Protective and possessive actions

Two Critical Insights

  1. Living in fear is a miserable way to exist
  2. We all have the power to change what rules our lives

Taking Control of Your Life's Ruling Forces

Understanding what rules your life is the first step toward positive change. Ask yourself:

  • What dominates your decision-making?
  • How do you typically react to unexpected situations?
  • What emotions guide your daily interactions?

Moving Forward: Questions for Self-Reflection

Take a moment to consider:

  • What rules your life currently?
  • How do your responses reflect your inner state?
  • What changes would you like to make in your reaction patterns?

The power to change what rules your life lies within you. It starts with awareness and continues with conscious choice.

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Brandon Mimms

Entrepreneur; Co-Founder, CSO at MentalHealth.com ??

2 周

Thank you for sharing these thoughtful questions for self-reflection. Awareness really is the first step to making conscious, positive changes!

Moe Choice

is mentoring solopreneurs to $15k+ months

2 周

This is a fascinating take on fear, Chris A. Evans! It’s interesting how a simple experience, like fishing, can shift our perspective and influence our reactions.

Rajiv Arora

OSHO Meditations facilitator & Co-Founder at Osho Himalayas

2 周

We need not waiting for fear to go away before making changes. Courage is taking action even as we acknowledge our fears. Insightful post, Chris A. Evans

Radha Vyas

Co-founder & CEO at Flash Pack ?? Social adventures for solo travelers. Follow for daily posts on building a career and life with purpose.

2 周

Great reflection on how we can shift from fear to understanding in our interactions.

Lindsay Brown

High performance and business coaching | MAICD | MBA

2 周

Right now, I’d say routine rules my life more than I’d like. I notice my responses can be a bit automatic, reflecting that I’m not as present as I want to be. I’d like to shift towards more mindful reactions.

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