What does your personality tell about you online?

Let us get the basics clear first, we frankly are not what we show to others. From deep inside we know that we are someone else but we portray ourselves in a different way in front of others. Therefore, to know what people think about our personality, it actually depends upon us, on how we act in front of them, on what kind of ‘mask’ we wear in front of them. It depends on how much open we are to them, what kinds of things we share with them.

This is quite challenging to answer a quiz on your personality every time someone asks me, since I don’t know what I’m like most of the time in other people’s eyes. However, I have come to better understand how my personality might come off to others. I am typically introverted, which can appear to others as detached, aloof, standoffish, slightly arrogant, having high superiority complex, loner, etc.

Whereas I am quite the opposite, I am an extrovert, always want to be with people, I am polite, pleasant in manners, having a friendly attitude and a good listener, I am quite polite with my interactions with everyone, but I prefer to not engage with others if I don’t know them or if I am simply interested. This, I would say, is what most people base my personality off of. First impression to most is (quoted from a real person I spoke to): “Stays out of people’s way, nice enough to approach but not always certain about what he’s thinking.”This type of personality clash is quite obvious in people's mind and what mirror I am showing myself.

Another aspect of my own personality is that I am also very empathetic by nature and I often need some time to truly know someone before trying to provide advice or offer direct help. For this reason, people always tell me that I am always “too nice” to strangers or he’s the kind of “nice guy” of the bunch. I am happy that I come off as a positive person to others, but the truth is, my kindness shouldn’t be misinterpreted as weakness or as a pushover.

I know I am very patient with people and always willing to listen and I can really deal with a lot of people’s anger, frustrations without it affecting me negatively. If people really push my buttons in a wrong manner, however, they can see a dark side of mine unravel and I can give the ultimate “Hey, listen, don’t talk to me that way” kind of vibe. But that’s somewhat rare, and most people who see that part of me know me well enough that I only get that way when I am really pushed to the wall and to my absolute limits.

Basically I am always good with most people, it's just that if you cross me and you do something to me, I will get you back for it. I usually give people 3 chances before I actually retaliate, though it might change from situation to situation. This leads to people believing I am cold-mannered and don't recognise their emotions. The truth is, I do, I just feel that you deserve to experience those negative emotions for a while. I also never hide what I think about someone, i.e. I don't talk bullxxxt gossip to anyone about anyone.

While people say about me online is quite different from actually what I am in person. People say about those people are the kind of people that shouldn’t be online to begin with, if they claim I bring out the worst in them despite the fact they obviously know little to nothing about me, they shouldn’t be the ones to talk especially since most of these types are the try too hard to be edgy types with their I am a total bindhas (carefree) kind of a guy who will never slit your throat online for some thing you said about my post, which they use even though they are not bindhas type in the slightest, with their constant references to those funny types who don't even like to comment on my posts. 

All things considered as a personality clash with their kind, is somewhat if we think what people think about us then, what people will think. So lets not think, what people think about us. Believe me, no one really cares. No one has time in real world to think about other people online in the virtual world (unless they are free from their electronic gadgets in today's modern world- which is not possible). This habit makes you the one who doesn't take lead and wait for others to judge and control. Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre