What does resilience feel like for you?

It was a chilly spring day. I was walking in the park with my husband and we stopped to admire the gorgeous crocuses.

I told him they look so delicate and tender. And he said, "They spent the whole night in frost, a temperature lower than 0 degrees Celsius, and yet they are blooming. You and I couldn't do that. They are stronger than they look."

And this conversation has stayed with me - this concept of softness and resilience.

For me resilience has meant learning that discomfort is okay, it won't kill me (based on the evidence so far ??) - whether that's the discomfort of rejection, heartbreak, failure, a difficult conversation or just a bloated stomach because of irritable bowel syndrome.

And instead of avoiding the feeling of discomfort and stiffening up, I could soften, let myself feel this discomfort and let it pass through me.

For some things this principle was easy to practice. For other things it was harder. I would get stuck or overwhelmed when I would try to lean into the discomfort and didn't know how to go further. In these cases I learned to ask for help, instead of playing the lone warrior ??.

It is in this softness and acceptance that I have found my resilience rather than in brittle toughness. And this is what my resilience seems to be made up of -

a) knowing that discomfort is a part of life,

b) if I take the time to feel the discomfort, it passes through - all sensations are temporary,

c) I can ask for help when I get stuck.

What is your resilience made up of?

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