What Does It Mean to Be a Joy Goddess

Who remembers Lovesexy by Prince? I have always loved the exploration journey Prince songs took me on but there were a few that opened my mind to new possibilities. The tingling in my body and awareness of joy in different parts of my body helped me be embodied before I knew or even used that word. Yes! I have been a Prince fan for 40 years. Growing up dancing to and listening to Prince was my original sexual expression. Fortunately I was able to understand the words in conversations with my mother. She was a kind, compassionate, hippy mom and we talked about all things sex and sexual health.? We danced to cook daily and to clean on Saturday mornings. I am not sure when I started my self-pleasure practice but I never felt shame about it. In fact, I never felt shame about my sexuality until I became an adult and started dating in the DMV. Contrary to what Islam actually teaches, during my marriage I also learned that many Muslim women had narrow views of sexuality. None of those views matched what I had read about sexuality and marriage in Islam. As you all know post-divorce, I restarted my sexual knowledge journey beginning with reading A Taste of Honey, attending tantra school for a few years and now somatic sexology school. I have been in the work and teaching others along the way for the past four years. What I enjoy most is enhancing my self-pleasure practice. I am learning new parts of my mind, body and soul. You see sex and pleasure is not about the climax it is about the journey.

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The month of May has many themes:

?Muslim Heritage Month

Mental Health?

Masturbation

?May 25 is Africa Day, Menstrual Health Awareness, and George Floyd Remembrance Day

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You may not immediately see the connection between all of these so let me connect the dots for you. As a Muslim, I get to embrace the contributions to humanity we as believers have made over the past several centuries. As a human being, I get to acknowledge the state of my mental health. As a woman, I get to explore my body and understand what gives me pleasure. As a person of African descent, I get to celebrate with my brothers and sisters on the continent. As a woman and mother, I get to advocate for the menstrual rights and sexual health of all menstruating females. Finally as a Muslim woman of African descent, I get to advocate for the lives of Black people and targeted Muslims around the world who have disportionately suffered as a result of capitalism, racism, and police brutality culminating in a wake up call with the 8 minutes globally broadcast death of a Black man. In all of these things, I also have a choice to let it render me hopeless, insatiably angry or overcome with grief. But there is another alternative…I can also choose to be a stand for my joy!

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After allowing myself to be with my sacred rage, I uncovered oceans of sadness. A variety of forms of grief. The story of losing myself for the love of my marriage and the protection that marriage provides for a woman. I love the idea of marriage but my marriage ultimately was not for my ultimate joy but for my ultimate knowing of my infinite self. There is joy in that. Grief for the experience of being a Black woman in America and the invisibility, dismissal and battle it presents even on days where you already had simple challenges of fatigue or economic demise. The grief and rage of a family court system that is clearly created for and by misogynist and narcissistic men and upheld by women. What I learned in tantra is that sacred rage has deep wisdom. As I continue to unpack that wisdom, I only uncover more and more joy. With this realization, I discovered that I can help others like me to convert their grief, rage, fear, anger and more into joy. It is with this new discovery that I present Jynger Bytes?, my new interactive workshop leading to the Sacred Art of Intimacy.?

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Join me Wednesday for Jynger Bytes? interactive workshop and create your joy goddess within!

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Benefits of Joining:

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You get to transform your sadness, anger, rage and grief

You get to be with your emotions

You to regulate your emotions and be in your body

You get to discover where joy lives in your body

Start your journey to becoming a Joy Goddess

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?Register here!

What does it mean to be a Joy Goddess

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I would love to enumerate the meaning of being a Joy Goddess but alas it is something you must live. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you laugh in the face of that which would render you hopeless or feeling helpless. It does mean that after or somewhere during the blow of an experience, you can pause and seek the opportunity instead of the stew in the muck of it all.

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In my example, the voices of Black women remain unheard ????. Even with clear evidence of abuse and harm it is dismissed. The real tragedy is that the collective consciousness is accepting that Black women are less than and don’t deserve to live therefore by any means necessary society agrees to turn a blind eye.?It plays out in war scenarios that are not considered war but “self-defense”. The reality is that “self-defense” is against the evils the collective consciousness has created.?Now that humans can clearly see the results of what centuries of torture, abuse, pillaging and rape have produced you wish to extinguish the evidence by killing us all off.

Is that the solution??

?How does a Black woman respond and exist in this hostile environment???

?My mission is to create a league of Extraordinary Joy Goddesses like me to turn the world around.?

?Are you with me??

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Join me on May 29th for Jynger Bytes my new virtual interactive workshop and be a stand for your #joy!

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If the idea of an interactive workshop related to your sexuality, self-nurturing, self-intimacy and deeper fulfillment intrigues you,?register here.

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Be free!

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