What does a dark night of the soul feel like in the twin flame experience and do both experience it simultaneously?

G Singh.??Erstwhile Runner @ Awakened TFJun 13

Thanks for the query - Permit me to answer this as per my limited understanding and experience…

Twin flames, are a pair of souls that have incarnated as two individuals having distinct feminine and masculine attributes in this timeline. However any ages/incarnations/eons ago, these two souls were actually fused as a ‘singularity’, ie they existed as single ‘soul’ ,or one being. This soul had traversed to and from ethereal to this world numerous times and experienced all joys exhilarations and vagaries of life as a single entity, and yet at some stage had split into two. The so ruptured two entities, though distinct and complete retain the same frequency, vibrations, energies, aura and underlying recollection, echos and remembrance of being a singularity.

It is these baseline ‘commonalities and memories’ that trigger the magnetization, passions, emotions and fever between the pair, like no other - they feel an irresistible pull to one another, which they cannot ‘override’ , and in spite of their own bewilderment are surreally drawn to one another, as if hypnotized.

When the pair, do meet, the love bond between them is effortless, and though unknown to either, their ‘split souls’ are eternally connected by an energy bond ( some say chakra bond ), and this bond is forever pulsating with soothing vibes of “belonging and longing” , but upon meeting with one another (especially looking in their eyes ) this bond starts to throbs' with a vigor and passion of it’s own. It entwines the pair, and drapes them under a bliss of utopian love that cannot be described in words.

However, in spite of the great chemistry, the great euphoria, the great ecstasy - there generally is a ‘push and pull’ dynamics ongoing in between the pair, and this can at times vehemently turn into a ‘rupture’ that either of the pair would be unwilling ( though resentfully ) to bridge across ….

is here, that the harrowing downward spiral start for the pair, for the one, that is unwilling to ‘walk back’ would be driven by ‘logic’ and seek reprieve and refuge in escaping from the connection for a fresh start , while the ‘abandoned’ one would be in utter disbelief as to ‘why, what, how’ the magic had been shattered without any rhyme or reason.

Herein, would revert back to the query, for when the TF pair- do start to place an emotional and a physical distance in between themselves, then they also unknowingly are ‘triggering’ the DNOTS unto themselves….

For the one left behind, the onset of DNOTS is almost immediate, and for the one ‘running’ - DNOTS is like a haunting apparition chasing in the shadows , bidding its time to drench and drown one into the depths of “emotional distress & Trauma” , that feels like the ‘Deepest , darkest void’ within one’s self/soul, that one simply cannot climb out of easily.

DNOTS in the TF journey is in a sense, an existential crisis (!), wherein the mind is beset with throes of losing the ‘other’ and is not able to contemplate a future without them, and refuses to focus on anything else then ‘them’ ( be it family, be it friends, be it work ) - it simply does not ‘center’ on anything apart from the ‘profound blissful thoughts of time spent with them ?’ or on “what this could have turned into ?”.

The “emotional” part of the individual suddenly crumbles like a ‘sand castle’ crumbles under the onslaught of incoming waves of ‘anguish and agony’ that will not ebb with time. One would feel ‘isolated’ and will be compelled to seek solitude, for the inner pain would start to flow in ‘tears’ that will continue unabated till sleep comes in, as a respite from sheer mental and emotional exhaustion.

The soul, though ‘muted’ would spiral downward in a silent state of deep “mourning and grieving” - this would be felt like a crushing weight on one’s physical being and a ‘weight’ that will not budge, and would be felt with every breath.

I sincerely regret that the DONTS description from me, at times is very morbid (so, i have been told) - but i refuse to ‘molly coddle’ anyone, into believing that DONTS is a ‘day/week long’ disruption, that would wither away, and the baseline normal would be achieved thereafter - No ! DONTS is something that can vary in intensity from individual to individual, but will always ‘churn’ one’s life, and turn everything upside down and downside up, it will ‘compress’ one in a ‘vice’ like grip that will change every perception one has of the divine, and the divinity of this connection.

However, In spite of all the upheaving turbulence, DNOTS enforces on one’s self - It does subside, for all TF’s are ‘seasoned, experienced souls’ and invariably the ‘grieving’ turns into repentance, as the soul coerces the intellect to accept the truth of the ‘divine plan’ and the divinity of the bond they have with their ‘Divine other’.

This leads to the next ‘Transformational’ phase of the DONTS i.e “awakening”, or expansion of the “consciousness”, wherein the person will eventually reach out to the “powers that be” i.e “Higher self/God/Creation/Spirits” and get cryptic answers on the way forward, and the person takes small but firm steps towards ‘normalcy’ and ultimately towards enlightening ‘light that illuminates and bathes one’s being with effervescences of ‘awareness’ and “transformed awakening”.

Onto the second part of the query - DNOTS, generally does not occur simultaneously to both of the pair - As thumb rule, After the rupture - it occurs immediately for the ‘chaser’ and then subsequently to the ‘runner’, and the timing and the number of DONTS cycles are also not ‘prefixed’ , they vary from pair to pair (depending on the level of ascension, the pair has achieved over their last incarnations)

o summarize - DNOTS (Dark Night of the Soul), is the severest extreme form of disillusionment (similar to severe depression) , and will trigger a “grief filled sadness” in the bond, that the ‘twin’ at the other end (even if separated by thousands of miles), will by default pick up upon , and will also ‘mirror’ the distraught sentiment, and have a wave of “profound sadness” sweep over them.

Hence, In separation, even if blocked or ghosted, irrespective of being a chaser or a runner - whenever you are overwhelmed with a ‘notion’ of sadness coming from your TF, ALWAYS send them emotional unconditional love !!!

Hope this helped - Stay blessed - Thanks.