What does a 4-year-old have to do with overcoming fatigue?

A journey towards developing the best version of ourselves begins the moment we fully adopt and reparent the little one that lives inside us. Our Inner Child. Some call it intuition. Or your heart’s desire.

This has definitely been the case for me.

Why does it even matter, you may wonder? Imagine for a second the energy of a child.

• It’s playful.
• Adventurous.
• Curious.
• Joyful.
• Creative.

Children need to discover, create and break things. Push the boundaries. Reach the limits. They know exactly what they love and keep doing it or asking for it! This keeps them alive and causes growth in every possible direction. They become unstoppable.

The qualities of a child stay with us all our life. Otherwise, the world would have stopped developing without that innate curiosity and drive for discoveries. However, those traits are present not to the same extent. Some of them can be diminished by our parents or environment that isn’t able to comprehend them. In such cases, we get the feedback that it’s not okay to be and pursue those traits. As a result, other strategies need to be created to deserve our carers' love, affection, care and attention.

It’s called conditioning.

Child-like qualities are what push the world forward, yet the need for acceptance, attention, and appreciation is what fuels our motives behind the creation process.

Hence at some point we change the direction of our reasons from our own inner drive to external and see what satisfies those needs under certain states — that is not by whom we are and embracing it, but by doing what gives desired outcomes of love and affection outside of us. Which leads to people-pleasing methods.

The more external our motivation and actions are, the bigger the disconnect from our Inner Child, which expresses itself mostly through taking action. And that can in turn contribute to generating less energy one might need to work, create, provide, and finally live because it’s not congruent.

As a result, our motivation also drops. We get stressed & triggered more often. We get less fulfilment and joy from what we do because the hunger of our Inner Child’s need to play, create and follow their heart’s desire is growing bigger. Slowly and steadily we head towards burnout. The link is direct here.

The way out of it is pretty simple. We need to reconnect with the things we LOVED doing as children! Imagine yourself in those moments of pure joy at their peak. Ask yourself also additionally:

• What did you dream about as a child?
• What did you choose to do when you had free time?
• What were the places you liked to go to and the people you chose to spend your time with?

Go, find those places, things, and people and do them more often. At least once a day, or once a week. Once a month spend the full day entertaining yourself as if you were little again. Whether it’s the need to walk barefoot on the ground, get your hands dirty in the mud or clay, dismantle things and recreate them, or do nothing with your head empty and carefree swinging on the swing.

Ask yourself — how and what can you do on a regular basis, so the energies that have leaked living your busy everyday life chasing dreams that aren’t yours and seeking external validation by delivering more and more things and projects others happily delegate to you, can be restored?

To me, it’s travelling. Exploration of new places, and landscapes, meeting new people. Challenging myself is the biggest source of stimulation and aliveness. I didn’t have it as a kid, but I discovered it as an adult. The novelty coming from visiting new places, getting to know foreign cultures, finding similarities, and embracing differences truly float my boat. Finding myself in new circumstances and testing my identity, my set of values, and my core beliefs and enriching them day by day. This is what abundance means to me. The world is so interesting and exotic just one train/flight away.

What you can DO for hours, and talk about for even longer?

Find the ONE thing that you care about, and are geeky about, that distinguishes you from some, but at the same time connects to others. Make it your prayer. Your devotion. Your non-negotiable?sacred habit.

End of the day reparenting yourself and doing what your heart desires is your most important job in life. Become your best employee and CEO for yourself and apply the self-care practice to nurture your mental health daily! Fire anyone and anything that’s not in alignment with you.

And have fun along the way, as your 4-year-old self would have!

If you’re ready to get in touch with your Inner Child and learn to maintain this relationship, message me. I’ve got you!