What do you want your new 'normal' to look like?

As lockdown starts to ease, there’s lots of debate in the media about what the new ‘normal’ will look like. And, you may also have been reflecting on how you want your life to be going forward from here. 

I thought I’d share some thoughts along with a FREE Worksheet to help you think about this.

One of the gifts for many of us in these strange times has been the opportunity to experience different ways of working and living - and some space to reflect on what really matters to us. 

Sometimes, it takes a crisis to wake us up to what hasn’t been working in our lives and give us the impetus to make changes. 

A question worth exploring

However, what I often see with clients is that they’re very clear about what they DON’T want - e.g. “I don’t want to be stressed”, “I don’t want to work all hours”. But they can struggle to get clarity on what they really do want. 

So, the question I frequently ask is: “If you don’t want xxx, then, what do you want instead?”. 

If you are recognising that you want to make some changes, it’s a question worth exploring. 

Instead of stressed, maybe what you really want is to be feeling calm and confident, whatever your challenges?

Instead of working all hours, is what you really want to switch off at 18.00 and have time in the evenings for other priorities outside of work?

How to stop getting more of what you DON'T want

Until you shift your focus away from what you don’t want towards what you do want, very little is likely to change. In fact, what I see, time and time again, is that focusing on what you don’t want just brings you more of that i.e. what you DON’T want. More stress, longer working hours etc.

Let’s test this out. If I ask you not to think of a pink elephant, what comes into your mind? Yes, that pesky pink elephant that I told you NOT to think of! The mind has a funny way of ignoring the negatives. 

I know this from my own experience. Nine years ago, the crisis that had me questioning what I wanted was burn-out. I had what looked like the perfect life on paper - founding partner and Director of a successful consultancy, a beautiful home in London, enough money to finance an enviable lifestyle - holidays, clothes, eating out. I didn’t want for anything materially. 

But, I wasn’t happy. Self doubt and my fear of being found out a fraud (the Imposter Syndrome) had me piling on the pressure to work harder, go faster, do more. I was exhausted and miserable - and, all I could think about was that I didn’t want THIS. 

Shift your focus to make changes

I woke up and went to bed with that thought. It accompanied me through my day. It was only when I shifted my focus and made up my mind that I wanted to find a different way of doing success and started to explore what that would look like that things started to change. 

I looked at every aspect of my life. My career, my home, my social life, my health and well-being, my relationships (with myself as well as with others), my skill set, my financial situation and more. Working out what I wanted in each of these areas was the first step in making the changes necessary to create the richer and much more fulfilling life that I now enjoy. Focusing on what I really want has become a regular practice for me and one that I encourage with my clients.

FREE Worksheet to help you work out what you really want

So, if you know that you want to make changes and create a different sort of ‘normal’, spend some time thinking about what is it that you really want. Click HERE for a Worksheet to help you with that. Go ahead and download it now, put some time aside in your diary and take the first step in creating the future that you really want for yourself. 

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And, if you want to explore how working with me would enable you to realise your ambitions and create the life and career that you really want, let’s have a call. Just send an email to [email protected] and we can set up a time to speak.