What Do You Think ??
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What Do You Think ??

Feedback is a tricky thing. When we talk about this topic, our focus is how we give feedback to others. This is needed because it doesn't occur naturally, or often enough, in our organizations. It's interesting to me though that when we write about feedback, we personally are never in the mix. Since the direction of feedback is always outward, isn't is possible that we won't receive any ourselves?

We are more than willing to give our opinion about people. It doesn't take much prodding at all. The challenge is that when this occurs, we tend to list negative items or note things that we think need to be "addressed." This is technically a form of feedback and it's typically what people expect. It seems that it's harder to give positive feedback, but it's just that we haven't practiced.

To get started though, I'd like to suggest something different. What if you asked people for feedback? Seriously, What if you asked people - "What do you think?" but it was about you and your performance. I know this is absolutely out of everyone's comfort zone, but it's an alternative approach.

The fact is - we all have blind spots. We may be behaving or performing in a way that is affecting others, but we don't know what's happening. You may not be "clicking" with them, or something just feels out of kilter. There is also a significant norm you'd be breaking because asking others to give you feedback may put people on the defensive. They may not know how to respond because they are stuck in the old model of either giving or receiving negative feedback the majority of time.

I know that this is a big stretch, so here are some starters to help you ask and also seek feedback from others.

  • What am I doing right ?? - You can set the stage and approach for these types of interaction by being positive going in. You have to get over the self-esteem barrier that may hold you back. This isn't for others to brag about you. It's to help them see that feedback can be positive !!
  • Where do you see me being an obstacle ?? - We all get in the way of someone. There are things that hinder our performance from being the best it can be. If we're an obstacle to others, it's better to know what that looks like so you can address it and, hopefully, remove it.
  • What's an area where I could improve ?? - People want to share how you could do better. Asking it this way stops them from launching on you with a barrage of negativity. Ask people for things that are tangible and relevant and not just differences in personality or approach.
  • How can I help you do better in your role ?? - This one will throw people off completely. You see, we TELL people what to do and to get work done. The majority of people have a "task" mentality and they want to see defined stops and starts. By offering to help someone else you develop yourself and also relationships. Both are key to you doing well.

I know that this goes against what people think when it comes to the world of feedback. I want you to be encouraged though. I know this works because I've tried to practice it myself with peers as well as people who've been my boss. It's a bit wonky when it starts, but I've seen it blossom to more open, regular and consistent communication.

Check out other's thoughts on this as part of the Feedback Carnival that Helen Amery is doing out of the UK !! It's fabulous !!

 So, now that you've seen this different option . . . what do you think ??

David W. Weaver

Facilitating Excellence in Process, Quality and Knowledge Management | Content Creator | Writer/Blogger

9 年

Hey Steve, here is my feedback ;-) - Great title. The informative and helpful article provides a fresh look at feedback and a reminder that we all have our "blind spots". Nice job.

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How in this socail unjustecs world possible

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Donna Childs, MA, SPHR

Proven President/ Owner | Strategy | Leadership | Human Resources

9 年

Excellent post Steve, it's not so hard to get feedback that is constructive and helpful.

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Dave Paton

Helping Self-Critical Owners of Small Businesses to Rebuild their Confidence and Motivation to Achieve the Business, the Team and the Life they Want.

9 年

One of those terrible moments at work is when someone sides up to you and says 'do you mind if I give you some feedback?' Your heart sinks, because , even if it comes in a good news sandwich, you know you're in for a drubbing. Steve's article is a great corrective to that.Take the initiative, go looking for feedback - and get it when you're feeling resourceful and prepared.

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Absolutely correct - it is extremely crucial (for the good health of the Org) that feedback is always positive, clear and constructive. Even more important is that this concept itself is communicated correctly to the teams...nice article...

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