What do you mean by "Vagina Police"?
Shahinul Khalisdar
Tax Advisor | Business Advisor/ Taxation Expertise/ Enrolled Agent (EA)/Master of Science in Taxation (MST)/ Author
Last night, someone asked me what I meant by "Vagina Police."
First and foremost, I want to clarify my understanding of women so that no one thinks I am sexist or takes my words out of context. It's been a journey of learning and growth. Until I was in my early twenties, I didn’t fully grasp the differences between men and women. During my teenage years, some of my peers asked me to write love letters to girls, and those girls would often laugh at me.
As a child, we played together—boys and girls alike. One day, a girl refused to play with me until I married her. I waited all day to tell my dad about this, but by the time he came home, I had already fallen asleep. The next morning, I woke up to see my dad drinking tea. I took his cheek in my hands and told him I had been waiting all day to discuss something important. He advised me to first perform Wudu (ablution), pray Fajr, drink tea, and then share my concerns in a relaxed manner. I protested, saying that it would be too late by then. He replied, “My son, a routine must be followed, and prayer always comes first.”
After finishing everything, I told him I was ready to share my problem. He smiled and encouraged me to go on. I said, “Dad, there’s a serious issue that you need to help me with.” He urged me to continue. I explained, “You know I used to play with so-and-so? She refused to play with me and said I needed to marry her in order to play together.” My dad remained silent for a few moments before responding, “My son, when you go to New York City, finish your BA, get a job, buy a house, and then come back to play with her.” I expressed my frustration, saying that it would take too long. He replied, “Be patient. Allah loves those who have patience.” I went back to tell her what my dad said, but she told me she would never wait that long. ??
Secondly, I met a Jewish girl in NYC who gave me the nickname "Organic." Her grandfather was a millionaire, and she worked in his store for a few hours after her classes. Whenever I visited her section at work, her friends would say, "Your Organic is here," and she would smile. We often went to a Kosher pizza place to enjoy two slices of pizza and a drink that we both shared. But her grandfather used to hate me and often told me not to hang out with her. He made it clear that she would never marry me and even cursed Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). One day, I confronted him, saying, “Sir, I am a free man, and no one in the world can dictate who I marry. God has given me the right to choose.” At that moment, she came close to me, hugged me, and said, “I will marry you. You don’t have to work; I have enough money to take care of you and our future kids.” Her grandfather grew angry and asked her, “Did you get pregnant with him?” Her face flushed bright red. I replied, “Are you serious? How could we have kids if we are not married yet?” Her grandfather just smiled. After that, I never met her again.
Thirdly, I made it absolutely clear to my mother that my sister has the full freedom to complete her education and to marry whomever she wishes or to remain unmarried forever without causing any concern. In our culture, women are often discouraged from attending school, as some see it as a shameful act. Therefore, I am a staunch advocate for my sister's right to live as freely as possible within the framework of Islamic principles, and I want her to have the autonomy to make her own choices.
Fourthly, I was a Criminal Justice student when the Taliban took control of Afghanistan. The Taliban first became prominent in 1994 and seized the Afghan capital, Kabul, in 1996. In my Victimology class, my professor mentioned the term "vagina policing" as enacted by the Taliban, and we were assigned to read an article on the subject and write an essay about it. Since the class focused on Victimology, the emphasis was on women as victims of this Taliban practice. My essay received a B+ because I successfully correlated the psychology of the Taliban with an understanding of my village culture.
Fifthly, last September, I traveled from Frankfurt, Germany, to Virginia, USA. I booked an Airbnb at 2428 Neabsco Creek Ct, Woodbridge, VA. The host's name is Azusa. She mistakenly assumed I was an "illegal immigrant" and began lecturing me on how America treats women. Her behavior was inappropriate and slack. I tried to explain that I am well-educated about the U.S. criminal justice system, as I studied criminal justice and completed my internship at the Bronx Criminal Court. However, she assumed I was lying and became even more aggressive. ?
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?During September and October 2024, I stayed at Airbnb at 2428 Neabsco Creek Ct, Woodbridge, VA. She falsely accused me of “Sexually Battery,” which the “Prince William County” magistrate interpreted as “Unwanted Touch,” and issued two arrest warrants that caused my losing “Global Entry” status in the USA. This was a clear case of injustice.
A sexual complaint can result in an arrest if the alleged behavior is deemed a criminal offense, such as sexual assault, harassment, or indecent exposure, which may lead to the end of your professional career.
If you analyze the Azusa Johnson scenario, you can quite clearly see the “Vagina Policing.” Without substantial evidence, the magistrate issued two arrest warrants. This was a clear case of injustice and a frustrating example of how the system overreacts when a woman complains. ?
What is 'Vagina Policing'? It is an overreaction to protect a woman from a sexual relationship with a stranger. The concept of 'vagina policing' often originates from religious beliefs, particularly in Abrahamic religions, where lineage purity is a significant issue. These religions often have strict rules about sexual conduct and modesty, which can lead to the policing of women's bodies and behaviors.
My position is unequivocal: I firmly believe in individual responsibility and accountability. I believe women possess the intelligence and capability to protect themselves from sin.
As a society, we should not overreact to the issue of "Vagina Policing" under the guise of protecting women. A woman needs to understand that an illegitimate child will be her responsibility. and her impurity may lead her to hellfire. ?