What Do You Cover Up At Work?

With this post I’m not referring to covering up pinching someone’s lunch from the fridge or finding you’ve gone home with a years supply of post it notes. I’m inviting you to look at what you cover up about yourself at work. Do you have an idea of what’s deemed professional in your industry and then try to adapt your behaviour to fit this professional persona? Or perhaps you have imposter syndrome and cover it up by not sharing your ideas in case you say the wrong thing. Or perhaps you exhaust yourself by trying to be like everyone else around you or being positive all the friggin time?

What if being who you are in the moment is the best approach to life and business? What if all the second guessing and trying to fit your idea of what’s acceptable is actually counter productive? The thing is what you think is professional or how you should be, and also what you think about yourself is a perception in thought and therefore transient. I’m sure there are also many books on how to be professional but who decided what the rules would be? It’s ALL made up. What if you could simply know that in every moment you are the best you can be? What if the resistance to what is and the trying to change or mould yourself is the very thing that’s most uncomfortable?

I'm guessing it’s fair to say you’re not out to harm or disrespect anyone so why not forget the made up rules and simply show up in a way that makes sense to you? I bet you would automatically wear what makes sense, do what makes sense and behave in a way that makes sense too. You don’t need rule books on how to live, it’s something that naturally occurs without effort. The tendency of human behaviour is to overcomplicate and search for the “right” way to do something and the “right way to behave and this is what then stifles and restricts.

What is this incessant need to fit in, be liked, feel valued and get validation? Where does it come from? In my direct experience I see it’s from a belief that I am alone and separate, and a knowing that this feeling of separation is not how it should be. You may have experienced this too? We then innocently decide the way to quench this thirst for belonging is to cover up all our perceived flaws and anything we deem not good enough about ourselves in order to receive love, connection, and become a better person. A narrative often accompanies why we are the way we are and whether we will ever succeed, or be worthy to achieve the greatness we feel somewhere deep down is possible if not for who we are right now.

The good news is who you think you are and that sometimes dramatic narrative of ‘the story of me’ is not actually who you truly are. The voice (seemingly of you) located what seems to be in your head telling you who you are and what to think and what to do is not a real entity. This insecure ego or another name is separate self is not an actual thing or person. The real you is not your body and mind and getting even a tiny glimpse at this can open the door to a life of more ease.

Imagine a life without taking yourself seriously or taking things personally. Without needing to acquire stuff or receive praise. A life without having to be right or defend the opinions of an ego/personality that’s thought created. Instead of going through life thinking of lack, scarcity and insecurity to live instead with the knowing of abundance, resilience, peace and security.

So what is there to cover up really? This idea of you – the ego/separate self is transient and never satisfied. Whatever you do will not be good enough. There will always be more to do and be to quench the desires and thirst of an imaginary sense of self.

I invite you to inquire who you think you are, and notice how true your description of yourself is. Are you describing transient perceptions and opinions of who you are and do these ideas of yourself stay the same? If you are not your personality and not the perceptions you have about yourself who are you? Are you a body and a mind? Where is your mind and where in the body are you?

An alternate to answering the above questions is to simply experience what is and live your life in whatever way it appears. Inquire or don’t – there really are no rules!

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