What Do You Believe In?

Hi My Friend,?

Maybe it’s your religious faith? Maybe it’s your alignment with purpose? Maybe it’s simply that all wars should end and children should never suffer. ?

Whatever it is, I hope it’s a topic of conversation on all your first dates. ?

See, I don’t like to bog you down with a bunch of shoulds or shouldn’ts, when it comes to dating, because all I want you to be is true to yourself. How that looks in a romantic situation can be different for all of us. ?

I just want you to be so self-accepting, self-knowing, and confident in every inch of yourself, that you trust yourself to stay in the moment and make choices using your intuition. ?

That's how dating can work when we have some sort of system of belief. ?

Something you stand for, something you stand against, something that you cannot see removed from your life because it's why you live. ?

I, for instance, will spend the rest of my days believing in the power of unconditionality. I stand for it every day. I would die in allegiance to it. If I met someone new, it’s one of the first things they would know about me. ?

This is why, when I meet someone new, I take the first organic opportunity to find out what they believe in. Because if there is anything I’ve learned, a man who believes in nothing has nothing to offer. ?At least nothing that will sustain your connection with him. ?

Consider this… ?

• If he believes in nothing it's not likely that he dreams, which means he will discourage your dreams (even if inadvertently).
• He’s likely untrusting. Which means he never relies on others, partners, or lets anyone else help him because he doesn’t believe in the power of anything else, including other people.
• He’s inflexible because he’s only got his own understanding to lean on.
• He’s likely addicted to something. Food, drugs, alcohol, work. Who wouldn’t be when you have no reason to “be”?

? Before you rush out of the house looking for the next guy to catch with these “red flags”, consider where you stand in your beliefs.

Also... ? Realize that "What do you believe in?" is not a question that people hear?every day. So?maintain grace in the asking.?Next time you are on a date, I encourage you to seize the opportunity to ask him,?no matter how the date is?going, and then just listen. Maybe he'll ask you too.? ?

Afterward, I would love to hear your thoughts and comments.

Love you so much!

?? Coach Candice

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