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In This Issue:
     Quotes of the Week
     What To Do When You're Feeling Down
     Bookmark - Alibaba
     Inspirational Words
     Spiritual Centre
     Story Time
     Time to Smile
     Feedback
 
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"Experience teaches only the teachable." - Aldous Huxley

"He harms himself who does harm to another, and the evil plan is most harmful to the planner." - Hesiod

"With regard to excellence, it is not enough to know, but we must try to have and use it." - Aristotle

"Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less." - C.S. Lewis

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What To Do When You're Feeling Down
By Jacquie Hale

Everyone has an occasional time of feeling down. Some people may be clinically depressed while others have bouts of feeling blue or times of low energy. Regardless of the frequency or the cause, and whether or not you are on medication, you can lift yourself out of the doldrums with a few techniques. I suggest that those who encounter such distressed feelings have a few of these antidotes ready for quick access.

Appreciate the Good Stuff - Acknowledging the good and beautiful in your life is a great daily practice. Making a list of what you appreciate can lighten your mood instantaneously. You can do it by yourself, or better yet, call a friend and inspire each other. Make the sky your limit! Think of events in history that have inspired you or people who have made you thankful just to have known them. Appreciate the person who cuts your hair exactly as you like, the school crossing guard who volunteers even during a torrential downpour, politicians whose values match yours, your boss, your spouse, your kids, your co-workers, and don't forget--appreciate yourself for all the things you accomplish!

Eliminate the Negative - In the short run, you can turn off news and TV programs that cause you distress and even stop reading the newspaper. Fill the space you create with media that is uplifting.

If your discouraged moods are significant or frequent, it might serve you to stop interacting with negative people. This may require a big effort and great ingenuity on your part. It may be that ultimately you would be doing yourself and the other people a favor by being truthful. You might say, "I'm having trouble keeping a positive outlook these days, and when you are always finding fault people, I start to feel down. So, I'm going to skip our weekly coffee klatch for a while."

If the weather or the short days are bringing you down, try to block the outside views and fill your space with as much light as possible. You might even get full spectrum light bulbs for your living and work space where you spend the most significant part of your day.

Distract Yourself - When you find yourself in the downward spiral of negative self talk, do something startling such as splashing cold water in your face or slamming your hand on a table and declaring, "Stop!" Other activities might include percussive activities like hoeing in the garden, chopping wood, jumping rope, or simply stomping around.

A fine way to distract yourself is to put on some favorite music and dance for a while. Some people find great release in planning and cooking a meal, baking cookies, or putting up a batch of jam. Others get lost in a complicated puzzle or computer problem. Keep a list activities you enjoy so that all you have to do is look at the list for a distraction when you're dragging along so low that ideas are hard to come by.

Have a ready library of uplifting media. This might include favorite movies, TV programs, music, poetry, or books. I often suggest that clients create fantasies that put their minds and hearts in a more favorable frame. You might remember a particularly wonderful event or create one in your mind. This kind of virtual vacation can brighten a very dull day.

Exercise - You don't have to run marathons to get the positive effects of exercise, you can feel revived and uplifted with as little as 20 minutes of brisk walking. Better yet, you can combine two of these techniques at once by putting on music you like and dancing.

Be of Service - Nothing takes you out of the blues as much as helping someone else. On the spur of the moment, you might call a neighbor and offer to take her kids to a movie or do the grocery shopping. You could cook dinner for a friend or take dessert to a colleague. For more extensive service, you could volunteer to work at a soup kitchen or deliver Meals on Wheels. One of my friends feeds babies at the local Children's Hospital and another tutors illiterate adults. I organize the volunteers for a local music group. That way, I get to hang out with the musicians and go to their concerts. Pick some service that interests you and it's likely to make you happy, even if you have to drag yourself out the door to do it.

Communicate Appropriately - If you notice that you have suddenly found yourself feeling grumpy or inexplicably down, review what was going on in the few hours prior to the feeling descending on you. You may find that you had a conversation that left you feeling unsettled. It might be that you didn't say what you meant to say or you withheld the truth of how you felt. Sometimes it might be that you didn't set good boundaries and you need to speak up.

This is not an easy thing to do. It takes finesse to tell the truth in a way that doesn't make the other person wrong. The best way to do this is to make "I" statements. Talk about how you feel, not about what the other person is doing. You can't say, "I feel you are a jerk!" because the jerkish person will simply get defensive. In this case, you could say, "When you act like that, I am afraid someone is going to get mad and start a fight with you." Another common boundary-setting statement is, "When you act like that, I feel that you don't like me or you are angry with me."

Challenge Negative Thoughts:

If you have an Inner Critic that is giving you grief, start making a list of all the things this critic says about you. Then look at each statement and ask these questions:
? Is this true?
? How do I know it is true?
? How do I act because I believe this is true?
? How would I act if I didn't believe this was true?

Have a Buddy - It's wonderful to have someone who will support you when you are feeling down. You can discuss the ideas you develop from this article and enlist a friend to help you engage in the some of the uplifting activities.

You are ultimately responsible for your own happiness. Actually, no one knows better than you what satisfies you or makes you happy. You can help yourself far more than you think by being proactive. Some day when you are feeling particularly good, go through this list and create your own Antidote for the Blues Kit.

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Bookmark - Alibaba: The House that Jack Ma Built
Author: Duncan Clark
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In just a decade and half Jack Ma, a man who rose from humble beginnings and started his career as an English teacher, founded and built Alibaba into the second largest Internet company in the world. The company’s $25 billion IPO in 2014 was the world’s largest, valuing the company more than Facebook or Coca Cola. Alibaba today runs the e-commerce services that hundreds of millions of Chinese consumers depend on every day, providing employment and income for tens of millions more. A Rockefeller of his age, Jack has become an icon for the country’s booming private sector and as the face of the new, consumerist China is courted by heads of state and CEOs from around the world.

Granted unprecedented access to a wealth of new material including exclusive interviews, Clark draws on his own first-hand experience of key figures integral to Alibaba’s rise to create an authoritative, compelling narrative account of how Alibaba and its charismatic creator have transformed the way that Chinese exercise their new found economic freedom, inspiring entrepreneurs around the world and infuriating others, turning the tables on the Silicon Valley giants who have tried to stand in his way.

Duncan explores vital questions about the company’s past, present and future: How, from such unremarkable origins, did Jack Ma build Alibaba? What explains his relentless drive and his ability to outsmart his competitors? With over 80% of China’s e-commerce market, how long can the company hope to maintain its dominance? As the company sets its sights on the country’s financial and media markets, are there limits to Alibaba’s ambitions, or will the Chinese government act to curtail them? And as it set up shop from LA and San Francisco to Seattle, how will Alibaba grow its presence and investments in the US and other international markets?

Clark tells Alibaba’s tale within the wider story of China’s economic explosion—the rise of the private sector and the expansion of Internet usage—that haver powered the country’s rise to become the world’s second largest economy and largest Internet population, twice the size of the United States. He also explores the political and social context for these momentous changes. An expert insider with unrivalled connections, Clark has a deep understanding of Chinese business mind-set. He illuminates an unlikely corporate titan as never before and examines the key role his company has played in transforming China while increasing its power and presence worldwide.

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Inspirational Words

"In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit." - Albert Schweitzer

"Always recognize that human individuals are ends, and do not use them as means to your end." - Immanuel Kant

"Never mistake motion for action." - Ernest Hemingway

"Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go." - Hermann Hesse

"Respect your efforts, respect yourself. Self-respect leads to self-discipline. When you have both firmly under your belt, that's real power." - Clint Eastwood

"What worries you, masters you." - John Locke

"The real index of civilization is when people are kinder than they need to be." - Louis de Bernieres

"Bring ideas in and entertain them royally, for one of them may be the king." - Mark Van Doren

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Spiritual Centre - Hope

They say, "Where there is life, there is hope." But I say, "Where there is hope, there is life!" For me, my life is my hope and hope is my life.

(C) Shri. Kamlesh D. Patel - President, Shri Ram Chandra Mission - https://www.sahajmarg.org

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Story Time - Louder, Lilly

When Lili heard her name, she answered ìhere? in a voice so soft, you couldnít  hear it even if you wanted to. Mrs. Backmeyer marked Lili absent. When Lili heard ìAll right, everyone, find a partner,? Liliís stomach twisted and her mouth froze closed. Every kid had a partner... except Lili. ìYou with the ponytail. Come be my partner,? Mrs. Backmeyer said. The whole class stared at Lili.

ìLili,  sweetheart,  you  have  to  learn  to  speak up,?  Mrs.  Backmeyer  said,  erasing  the  zero  by  Liliís name. Mrs. Backmeyer did not have a speaking-up problem. Her voice was so loud, you had to listen to it whether you wanted to or not. Even the birds in the sky and the fishes in the sea heard Mrs. Backmeyer, and they all did what she said. At  recess  Lili  did  not  go  out  to
play. She curled up in a corner of the classroom next to Lois, the guinea pig, and  read  books.  Only  Lois  knew  she was there. After recess Mrs. Backmeyer asked who  wanted  to  take  care  of  Lois.  Arms  shot  up  around  Lili.  Wild  arms.  Waving arms. Arms that flew in all directions. Lili wanted to raise her hand. But her hand would not go up. Rita B. got to take care of Lois. Rita B. got to take her out of her cage. Rita B. got to fill her water and pour the seeds into her dish. ìHow was school today?? Liliís mom asked when she picked Lili up. ìDid you have someone to eat lunch with?? ìLois,? Lili said.

ìThatís nice,? her mom said. ìWhatís her last name? Iíll invite her whole family over for dinner.? ìSheís an orphan,? Lili said. ìOh, dear, you be nice to her, Lili Ann.? The next day, when it was time to find partners, a girl named Cassidy grabbed Liliís arm.  ìYouíre  my  partner  for  rhyming  pond,?  Cassidy  announced.  ìYou  write  the rhymes. Iíll color the fishies.? ìSquishy,  fishy.  Itchy,  witchy  Cookie dough,   Oreo.    Who    did    these??    Mrs. Backmeyer asked. ìTheyíre terrific!? ìI did,? Cassidy said.

During  lunch,  Cassidy  wanted  to  share. ìYou get the carrots. I get the cake,? she said. In science, Cassidy got the butterflies, Lili got the dirt.  And in reading corner, Cassidy got Secrets of Fairy World  and Lili got The Big Book of Grammar Rules. Every  day  after  that,  Cassidy  picked Lili as a partner.  ìLili is my best friend,? Cassidy said. But Lili stood with Lois, watching Rita
B. clean her cage. Then  one  day  Mrs.  Backmeyer  got laryngitis. Mrs. Snyderman was there. Mrs. Snyderman    didnít    do    partners.    Mrs. Snyderman  didnít  do  much  of  anything, except talk on her cell to Mr. Snyderman.

ìHey,?  said  Cassidy,  ìletís  take  Lois out.?  Cassidy  opened  the  cage  and  picked up Lois.  ìMay I have a turn?? asked Lili in a voice you didnít have to hear if you didnít want to.  Cassidy didnít want to. ìLetís give Lois a haircut,? said Cassidy, grabbing the scissors. ìHey! Donít do that,? said Lili. ìIím going to tell,? said Rita B. ìWho are you going to tell?? Cassidy asked. ìMrs. Spiderman??

Mrs. Snyderman was in the bathroom. Sheíd been in there a long time much longer than it took to do your business no matter what kind it was. ìLeave Lois alone,? said Lili in the loudest voice she had ever used in her whole entire life... but Cassidy didnít hear. ìLetís pour glue in her water,? Cassidy said. Lili wished Mrs. Backmeyer was there with all her might. But Mrs. Backmeyer wasnít there. No teacher was there.

Cassidy grabbed Loisís water bottle. She tipped the glue forward. Liliís face burned. Her mouth tasted like Tabasco sauce. From deep inside came a voice so loud, it made the windows rattle, the desks rumble and the rug come up off the floor. ìSTOP IT!? Everyone stopped it. The kids in Liliís class. The kids in the classroom next door. The birds in the sky and the fishes in the seaóthey all stopped it too. Even the glue in the bottle stood still. ìGive her here!? Lili said.  ìYou coulda just told me you wanted a turn. You didnít have to get all bossy,? Cassidy said.

ìLetís put her back in the cage,? said Rita B.  ìWe wonít let Cassidy near her,? said Lili.  ìEver again,? said Rita B. When Mrs. Backmeyer came back to school, she still couldnít speak very loudly.
ìPick partners,? she whispered.

ìRita B.?? Lili asked in a voice just loud enough for Rita to hear. ìLili,? said Rita B., taking her hand.

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Time to Smile - Life is Like That

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