What To Do When Things Are Not Working For You (9.4)
Fred Kofman
Executive Coach | President at Conscious Business Center International - CBC
"This is not working out for me," is a hard thing to say. Yet it is the most constructive way to start the process of resolution.
You are not saying that this is wrong. You are not saying that your counterpart shouldn't have done it, or shouldn't do it. You are not blaming her. You are not intruding into her space. You are simply saying: “This is not working for me, I’d like to change it, and I’d like your help to do it.”
Speaking in the first person, taking ownership for your experience and opinions are the secret of presenting confronting information in a constructive manner.
In the following video, you can find more information on how to do it:
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Readers: What is not working out for your about the way one of your colleagues is behaving, and what would make that collaboration better in your view?
Fred Kofman is Vice President at Linkedin. This post is part 9.4 of Linkedin's Conscious Business Program. To find the introduction and full structure of this program visit Conscious Business Academy. To stay connected and get updates please and join our Conscious Business Friends group. Follow Fred Kofman on LinkedIn here.
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5 年I find the suggestion for words and phrases to use really helpful here. Asking for permission to make a judgement call as a last resort is somewhat different to unilateral decision making which is what makes performance conversations so difficult.?
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6 年We use Slack a lot, which I love most of the time. But some issues which are more sensitive come across harshly to me if the communication mechanism is Slack. What would be better for me is being clear on the type of things that are good on Slack versus times when a private chat should be the communication method.
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6 年Nothing right now.? I ask a lot of questions to ensure that I understand what is needed.
Psicóloga e Consultora Especialista em Desenvolvimento de Soft Skills e Lideran?a
7 年Great points, I understand that in this case, it's necessary to be open to hear about my failure. And to get us to commit togheter about improving our perfomance.