What Do We Do When Our Insecurities Get in the Way of Our Leadership?

Ah, insecurities—they have a sneaky way of showing up, don’t they? But fear not!

All leaders and bosses have insecurities. Some are more obvious than others (e.g., fear of conflict, unwillingness to stretch outside your comfort zone). As a boss/leader, you cannot let insecurities get in the way of your success, the team’s success, and your clients’ successes.

How to Navigate Our Insecurities and Lead with Confidence

Acknowledge Your Insecurities

? Be honest with yourself.

? Recognize and name your insecurities (e.g., fear, sadness, anxiety).

? Accept them as a part of you without letting them define you.

? Practice kindness towards yourself.

? Share appropriately with your team (e.g., “Oops! I had a human moment.”).

? Offer an apology when misspeaking or failing to honor your word.

Seek Feedback

? Reach out to one or two trusted colleagues or mentors for honest feedback.

? Ask for and be open to constructive criticism to identify future growth areas.

? Take actions consistent with developing the skills.

Continuous Learning

? Engage in leadership training or workshops, especially if you fear doing so.

? Listen to videos to expand your knowledge.

? Engage in conversations where you are not confident.

Shift Mindset

? Embrace challenges as opportunities to grow.

? Use positive affirmations to reinforce your strengths and capabilities.

Build a Support System

? Seek mentors who inspire and guide you.

? Surround yourself with supportive and understanding peers.

? Hire an experienced executive coach to confidentially talk through your concerns.

Set Clear Goals

? Create and celebrate small wins to boost confidence.

? Develop a clear vision and align your actions toward it.

? Learn how to self-promote to win a job or other opportunities.

? Stop chasing bright shiny objects or relying on the crystal ball syndrome that sabotages your goal.

Practice Self-Reflection

? Reflect on your experiences, challenges, and growth through private journaling.

? Incorporate mindfulness practices to stay grounded. Also, take programs designed to deepen these experiences.

? Develop positive self-talk.

Lead by Example

? Show vulnerability to create a safe space for others experiencing similar insecurities.

? Be true to yourself and your leadership style.

? Develop clarity of your true strengths and weaknesses by taking a job fit assessment.

Seek Professional Help if Needed

? Professional guidance can offer positive insights without relying on trial and error.

Remember, everyone, even the most renowned leaders, has faced insecurities. It’s not about being flawless but about continuously growing and evolving. You’ve got this!

?Jeannette Seibly 2025 All Rights Reserved

Jeannette Seibly, an award-winning Talent Advisor, Leadership Results Coach, and Business Author, boasts over 32 years of hands-on experience. Working with small and family businesses, her expertise helps leaders and bosses refine their hiring, coaching, and management practices and achieve their intended results. Along the journey, she has guided the creation of three millionaires and numerous six-figure earners, all while championing those ready to elevate their game to new heights.