What Do We Have Control Over?
What Do We Have Control Over?
In this time when most of us feel a lack of control in our lives and the world, it’s important to remind ourselves what we do have control over and work on those things. I admit I have had some dark days over the Covid 19 quarantine and I’m sure with the uncertainty of what life will look and feel like in the next few months, I will have more bad days. It’s okay to have a shit day. Expect them, go with the flow and lean into it when you feel it. That’s the fear of uncertainty and the feelings of vulnerability coming up. Remind yourself what do you have control over. While you are having the conversation with yourself about what you can control remind yourself that this is temporary.
What we do know for sure is we can only control ourselves, change is a constant in the world and everything is temporary.
11 Things You Can Control
- We have control over ourselves. That might not seem like a lot but let’s break it up.
- You have control over how you react and respond to people and situations. You get to choose if you answer using fear or love. You get to choose if you respond at all.
- You choose who you spend your quality time with. If your finding that people in your life are bringing you down, draining you or making you feel worse about yourself. You choose if you want to keep the relationship or what the relationship will look like.
- You choose what you mentally digest - how much media you get? What you watch? What you read? Ask yourself: is it positive? Do I finish watching/reading and feel energized? Empowered?
- You control your mindset - what thoughts, patterns and beliefs don’t work for you or that are limiting? Are you meditating or being mindful on a daily basis to remove the negative clutter?
- You control what you put in your body- what are you eating? drinking?
- You control your movement - have you exercised? went for a walk?
- How you talk to yourself? do you treat yourself with kindness? compassion? or are you judgmental? harsh and critical? you choose what you say to yourself. Your words effect how you think about yourself.
- You choose how you see the world- are you grateful for what you have? are you noticing all the beauty around you? are you feeling all the love you have in your life? how many positive emotions are you cultivating?
- What I do with my time? Yes, you might have to go work or school and take care of others but how you do that is up to you? what you do with free time? breaks? vacation? commute? Is all up to you. I choose to use my commute to listen to inspiration talks. I choose to use my breaks to deep breathe. I choose to eat my meals outside in nature. How do you spend your time?
- How you serve others? One of our goals in life should be to help and be in service of others. How you choose to do that is up to you? I choose to do it by teaching others.
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