What Do Lasagna and Estate Planning Have in Common?

Have you ever heard horror stories about families fighting over Grandma’s jewelry or getting stuck in a never-ending legal battle after someone passes away? Or about how long it can take to sell a house tied up in the court process? What about family members being denied their inheritance completely? Unfortunately, these situations happen every day. Not even the rich and famous are immune! A simple Google search will pull up dozens of celebrity stories about all the conflict that ensues after they die.

But most people don’t realize these things are avoidable if you understand the process. If you’ve thought about creating a will or trust to avoid these outcomes, let’s ensure you’re fully aware of what’s at stake first. We’ll use a food analogy throughout this article, so our apologies if we make you hungry.

Lasagna as an Example of the Difference Between a Will or Trust and an Estate Plan

Let’s start by getting really clear on what we’re talking about. You’ve probably heard the term “estate planning” numerous times, but do you really know what it is? Contrary to what you may have heard or read about, estate planning and the documents involved – such as a will or trust – aren’t quite the same thing.

Think of your favorite recipe. We’ll use lasagna as an example. A lasagna recipe includes a few different components: the ingredients needed to make the dish, how much of each ingredient you need, and the steps you have to take to transform the ingredients into a dish. Without the steps, the ingredients are just ingredients—they don’t create anything.

Estate planning is similar. Your estate plan is the recipe, and the documents are the ingredients. A will or trust may be the pasta or the sauce, but they aren’t the lasagna. Sure, they’re necessary components of the lasagna, but without the other ingredients and steps, they’re just pasta and sauce. Same with estate planning. If you just create a will or trust, you have documents that are just documents. They don’t do anything by themselves.

That most people think the documents ARE the estate plan is a common misconception based on a lack of knowledge. Too many people are focused on the documents, even many lawyers, and so think all they need to do is create those documents, sign them, and call it a day. Even so-called financial “experts” will tell you this. There’s a whole new tech industry based on this premise, with do-it-yourself programs like LegalZoom. AI has even joined the fold.

Every single one of these people and companies are talking about the documents, or the ingredients. They aren’t telling you about the recipe. They aren’t showing you how to make the lasagna, but rather, they’re telling you about some (not even all) of the ingredients you need. What results are the big messes mentioned above: families in court and conflict, fights over sentimental items, long wait times to sell a house or distribute any of the assets, and even big, unnecessary tax bills.

To truly protect your loved ones and ensure your wishes are carried out the way you want, as easily as possible for the people you love, you need a comprehensive estate plan, not just the documents. The plan lays out not only the ingredients you need, but also in what amounts, and what actions must be taken to make the lasagna.

If you haven’t created a comprehensive plan of your own, or your current plan fails for any reason, know that there’s a plan already made for you. It’s a plan laid out in Colorado’s law, and it may be very different from what you want.

Colorado’s Recipe for Lasagna May Be Gross

To illustrate the difference between Colorado’s plan for you and one you can create for yourself, let’s get back to our lasagna example.

Let’s say Colorado’s recipe for lasagna includes spicy sausage, but you can’t tolerate spicy foods. Colorado’s plan may contain meat, but you’re a vegetarian. Or it could be that Colorado’s recipe includes mushrooms, but your child is allergic to mushrooms. Some ingredients may be missing altogether, and the recipe will probably tell you that you can’t even cook the lasagna for months, or even years (goodness, your family will be hungry!). Whatever the situation, it’s possible that Colorado’s plan includes some component that you don’t like, or even one that could be disastrous to your family.

In reality, Colorado’s plan says how your assets will be distributed, who will get them, and in what amounts. It requires a court process, which can be lengthy and expensive, and sometimes assets are frozen until the court process is over. It’s also set up for conflict, as your family members – even if you’re estranged – are required to get notice of the court proceeding, what assets you have, and are invited to make a claim for your assets. You may not like any of this.

If not, here’s the good news. The law also says you can create your own plan and decide on your own who you want to inherit your assets and how. If you create your own plan, you get to decide to give money to charitable causes that matter to you, which Colorado’s plan doesn’t allow for. If you create your own plan, you can also decide whether you want your loved ones to go through the court process. Yes, the court process can be optional.

What Recipe Do You Want to Use?

By creating your estate plan, you get to choose your lasagna recipe. You get to choose whether you want meat or veggie, mild or spicy sausage. You get to exclude ingredients your family members may be allergic to. You even get to decide if you want to share your lasagna with someone else. You get to decide when to cook the lasagna, whether you want it to be eaten tonight or assembled, frozen and saved for another day.

It’s entirely possible that you don’t think Colorado’s recipe is gross and you wouldn’t change a thing. But you won’t know that until you know the details of Colorado’s plan and how those details pertain to you, your assets, and your family. Or it could be that you think Colorado’s recipe is completely gross and you want to pick one that you and your family like. Either way, know what you want to create and be clear on how to do it, and do it correctly. Luckily, we can help.

How We Help You Get it Right

We’ve seen too many families suffer negative, yet unnecessary, consequences after a loved one dies. If you haven’t experienced it yourself, chances are you probably will. But with the proper education, beginning with correcting the misconception that estate planning and the documents involved are one and the same, we believe we can break the cycle of strife.

We start with education so you’re clear on what Colorado’s plan is for you, and what you can do to create your own plan that aligns with your values, your goals, your family, and most importantly, that it works when you need it to.

We call it Life & Legacy Planning, and once you’ve created your Life & Legacy Plan, you can rest easy knowing your wishes will be honored, your loved ones cared for, and your property protected.

Schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation with us to learn more.

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