What is the difference between commitment and attachment.

What is the difference between commitment and attachment.

I like to say commit to what you desire in your heart and let go of control. This doesn’t mean you don’t take action and you are just passively waiting for something to show up in your life, in a sense daydreaming. But this means that you are not attached to when and how it will happen you just know in your heart that it is already happened.

So, then you engage with the process of creation for long enough and if you stay in that process coming from feeling of inspiration, care, love, joy it will come to you.

So, here I’m talking about approaching things from BEING to DOING to HAVING if you approach your goal whatever it is you are working on or your desires from BEING then you are not attached to it, because you are already it, you feel it in your heart, you care and when you care you put all your attention and love into it,?and you are doing what needs to be done and then you are having what you desire ??

In that state of BEING, in that state of mind there is no need to control because you are already it, you have it in your heart , so then there is nothing to control because you approach things from abundance mindset of infinite possibility rather then scarcity mindset of lack and fear of losing or not being enough.

Now when you approach achieving what you want to achieve from scarcity you will be attached to the outcome. You will try to control and predict when and how it will happen. So, you will waste lots of energy on judging things and over rationalizing things and then worrying and doubting what if it won’t work.

This will put you into state of anxiety and you will not be effective in achieving outcome you want.

Because if you attach yourself to things you have unbalanced perception, attachment is FEAR of not having enough, fear of losing. And as you put all your focus, your attention on the outcome trying to control and predict the outcome and you don’t get what you want then you will feel more separation from what you want, you feel more lack, frustration, anger, resentment and so on .

So, this is traditional approach that many of us learned, approaching our goals and desires from HAVING to DOING to BEING.

And this is why it is so hard to get what you want, and it takes so much time and energy. So then in a sense if you are working so hard for what you want in stress and anxiety when you finally get it you usually don’t even enjoy it, because you are so tired and exhausted , you even forgot how does it feel to be joyful and alive , because you are always hungry to get something.

You lost your feeling of aliveness in life, or you may even get sick, because you expose yourself for long periods of time to stress and anxiety.

Research says that if we expose ourselves for long period of time to stress our cells divide more quickly because they need to replace cells killed by stress hormones of cortisol and adrenaline and that leads to decline in our DNA and also our lifetime because our DNA weakness.

Here is example how majority of people think:

When I will have $$$ amount of money then I will buy house or car or go on holidays and then I will be happy.

Or When I will find my life partner then I will be in relationship, and I will be happy, loved and secure.

Or when I will have my new job, I will earn more money and then I will be happy, successful and secure.

We all have been conditioned to think this way. And there is nothing wrong with that you can live this way, but you will be missing a lot in life.

So, then ask yourself is the way of having something first and then doing something and then being happy, content, fulfilled working for me?

Sometimes it worth to get in front of the mirror and get authentic with our intrinsic values and desires instead of how things must and should be.

You can’t fight with reality. And reality is that if you are not content in your life doesn’t matter what you will have you will never be fulfilled and you will be always looking for more, simply because you are not feeling enough.

Happiness, joy , love , care is not something you get from somewhere or someone either you are or you are not.

Looking back and connecting the dots, because we can only connect them looking backwards it was times when I thought that when I will have bigger house, I will be happy. That was big illusion I trapped myself unconsciously. If you are not happy and in love with yourself in your heart nothing and no one will make you happy.

That means you will need always to attach yourself to someone, or something and you will be waiting forever for someone or something to make you feel joyful, happy, lovable, enough so basically you are not taking resposibility in your life, because you are giving away power to someone else or something else to control your happiness, joy, freedom .

It takes time to relearn and remember how to be happy, joyful, lovable and then take action and then have what you desire. But once you get it you will never go back, and your life will fully transform. Love, happiness, care , joy is our natural state of BEING we just forgot it.

So then when you commit to something that you desire and when you don’t get it you are still happy, joyful, loving because it doesn’t control your state of being and that is opening door to infinite possibilities because you are not attached to the outcome you enjoy the journey of what you are creating.

Imagine different approach let’s say in looking for a better job. So if you are in love with life, with yourself, you know your instinct values, you are happy, you are not coming from scarcity and lack, that will make you confident in front of others and you will increase your self-worse.

So, then if you take action from that state of being you will find job of your dreams much quicker . Even if you will get rejected on the way you know that it is just a part of the process you don’t allow rejection to control how you feel.

Same thing if you want to find partner of your life If you are coming from lack of love and you are searching for someone to give you love, you will never find it. You need to be that love first that means you love yourself first and then you will find your life partner to share your love.

In this way you will find someone who is going to be on the same vibrational frequency of commitment and detachment at the same time. If you are looking for your love partner coming from lack expecting them to give you love, you are going to meet someone who is going to be in the same vibrations frequency of lack and I can tell it will not work!

So then when we attach ourselves to the outcome our perception about things is out of balance, we either infatuate ourselves with something or someone, that means we are fearful of losing someone or something and we don’t want to see the downsides of our infatuation. And that will come to light one day anyway.

Or if we resent, avoid, judge, something or someone we are fearing their gain and we don’t want them to see our flaws, again we are avoiding seeing upside to what we avoid and resent and one day it will also come to light with its consequences.

Let’s say you run a business and you are infatuated with money in a way that you are always focused on money so then on the other side you are fearful of not having clients to buy your products. Or if you are looking for a job you would be fearful that you will not pass interviews because there will be better candidates.

Remember what you fear you attract because emotions of fear will be stronger than your love/care for the job or business you run. ?

See if you are not integrous (whole) and it will have its consequences.

I always say power is in knowledge, knowledge about who you are, your ways of being, your intrinsic values. Life is a game and if you have tools, you can play it really well. If you don’t you will always run after something and you will never be fulfilled.

One really good question to ask yourself is :

What Am I committed to? and you can go really deep with this question. ?

Once you list all your commitments put them in your heart and let go of control. When you approach your commitments from this place you are free to be in the flow of life and let your feeling your intuition to guide you to the next step, you are fully present in a game of life. You are authentic, vulnerable, responsible, integrous, you really care!

You are open to have vulnerable, authentic conversations, that’s means you take responsibility, and you don’t play victim. Abundance is opportunities and you create opportunities through communication. How you will be perceived by others will always depends on your state of being in relationship to yourself, to what you want and to others.

And if you don’t understand yourself, you will not understand others and you will not be effective in pursuing what you want.

Speaking on neurobiological level when your perception is balanced your both systems sympathetic and parasympathetic are in balance, left side of the brain communicates with theright side of the brain.

That means that blood flows into your prefrontal cortex it will open hippocampus part of your midbrain that is emotional regulation and memory bank. Also when our heart is open and coherent then hormones of oxytocin, which is bonding hormone, hormone of love sips into primitive part of the brain Amygdala and shuts it down. Now you have access to your wisdom your strategic, objective part of the brain Neocortex.

You operate in high vibrational brain frequency Gamma which is much more effective than Beta and as a result you are effective in all arrears of your life. Nothing is missing, because in reality nothing is missing. If you perceive that something is missing you are misusing your thoughts.

So see when you have knowledge about YOU , you have the power, without knowledge you are just a poppet , you will always be attached to something or someone and you won’t even see it and then something or someone will run you ??

If you want to change your life you need to be willing to see how things really are and get out of your comfort zone, life starts at the end of your comfort zone, always.

Book a free call and I can help you to balance your perception and dissolve polarized emotions of fear, shame, guilt , judgements, resentments so you can access your unique Being become authentic ?and effective in all arrears of your life.