What Did Flannery O’Connor Pray For?

What Did Flannery O’Connor Pray For?

Often when I read, I’m struck by something, but I’m not sure why.

I’ve read The Habit of Being several times — it’s a collection of Flannery O’Connor’s extraordinary letters. O’Connor is one of my favorite writers, but I can hardly bear to read her fiction; it makes my head explode.

On July 1, 1964, O’Connor (who was a devout Catholic) wrote to Janet McKane:

Do you know anything about St. Raphael besides his being an archangel? He leads you to the people you are supposed to meet…It’s a prayer I’ve said every day for many years.

A week later, she wrote McKane a follow-up letter, with the prayer, which reads in part:

O Raphael, lead us toward those we are waiting for, those who are waiting for us: Raphael, Angel of happy meeting, lead us by the hand toward those we are looking for. May all our movements be guided by your Light and transfigured with your joy.

O’Connor died of lupus two weeks later.

I’ve often thought about this idea, that was clearly so  important to O’Connor — the prayer for being led to the people you are supposed to meet. This struck me as an oddly specific domain for an angel — and why did this matter so much to O’Connor?

But yesterday, I was at an event, and someone told the story of how at a networking event, she’d met a guy, and she told him, “You should meet this other guy I know,” and she’d introduced them, and now they’d started a huge project together.

This chance meeting, and her introduction, had transformed their lives.

As I heard her tell this story, it suddenly became clear to me: for O’Connor, working on her writing, sick, weak, living with her mother in Milledgeville, Georgia, because she couldn’t manage to live on her own, the hope of “meeting the ones we are looking for” would have been enormously important.

We’ve all waited and hoped for a “happy meeting” to occur. For our careers, for our personal lives.

It’s a very important thing, to play the role of making introductions, connecting people, helping to lead them to the people they need to meet. It can be such a huge thing in a person’s life. I myself set up someone I hardly knew on a blind date, and the two people ended up getting married.

As I’m thinking about O’Connor…I wonder if her prayers to meet the person she was looking for was tied, at least in part, to her art.

On March 4, 1962, she wrote to Father J. H. McCown:

I’d like to write a whole bunch of stories like [“Everything That Rises Must Converge“], but once you’ve said it, you’ve said it, and that about expresses what I have to say on That Issue. But pray that the Lord will send me some more. I’ve been writing for sixteen years and I have the sense of having exhausted by original potentiality and being now in need of the kind of grace that deepens perception, a new shot of life or something…

Sometimes this type of renewal comes from an encounter with another person.

Has anyone ever made an introduction for you, that transformed your life, or given you a new shot of life? Or have you ever played that role for someone else?

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Gretchen Rubin is the author of the blockbuster New York Times bestsellers, Better Than Before, The Happiness Project, and Happier at Home. She writes about happiness and habit-formation at gretchenrubin.com. Follow her here by clicking the yellow FOLLOW button, on Twitter, @gretchenrubin, on Facebook, facebook.com/GretchenRubin.

 

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Melanie Griffith

Attorney at O’Leary & Moritz

9 年

This is amazing - I didn't know that about St. Raphael. I met my husband for the first time in the parking lot of my home parish: St. Raphael. Certainly a "happy meeting" for us. :)

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温初敬

Sales Director at Bossique

9 年

that is so wonderful!

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Ashley Jackson

Vice President, Strategic Accounts | Mentor | Talent Solutions Consultant

9 年

This is an insightful post. Working in the industry of staffing and recruiting, I see it as a career-matchmaking. Or you could call it a "happy meeting"... The times my clients exclaim "Where did you find this person?!" in elation reminds me of why I love my job. P.S. Try O'Connor's fiction on audiobook- what an interesting way to experience her "voice"!

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Marcia Berner

Senior Business Analyst at Ask Kodiak

9 年

My personal motto is 'blessed to be a blessing' and I try daily to be a blessing to everyone I encounter. This often leads to me introducing two people to each other or being introduced myself to someone who becomes an important part of my life. I met my husband that way, and got the most awesome jobs from an ex-boss and ex-coworker's introductions. I believe we meet the people we need in our lives.

G W.

Writer/Editor

9 年

She was an amazing, perceptive writer.

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