What consequence do you choose?

Choose the consequence. It sounds weird, right? You must be thinking no I don’t want to have any consequence. Because to our ears the word “consequence” it feels negative. It makes you feel uncomfortable. Think of it for a few minutes. Last Friday we went out for drinks. We were having a splendid time. Karaoke, dancing wow it was amazing. At some point I felt a little bit tipsy and I went to the loo. I was looking myself into the mirror – Yes, I do that often actually, talking to myself haha- and I asked myself two questions. How would you like to wake up tomorrow morning?

Option A. Keep drinking and your Saturday will be a mess with a hangover and feeling sick.

Option B. Stop drinking or have more water instead of beer and you have another one day (Saturday) to enjoy life which basically means no hangovers.

What option would you choose? I choose option B and trust me I have been choosing option A for many years but after a while I realized that I don’t want that consequence. So, I was choosing which consequence would be better for my wellbeing. I will make a confession. Until 2 years ago I was still believing that we can have everything in life with any consequence we choose. Little did I know…

When I lost my best friend last year, I realized that nothing is given, and we shouldn’t take anything for granted. I decided that I want to choose me every time. By saying choosing me I mean I want to have a good life based on my preferences. That’s why I became a yoga and meditation practitioner. I want to reach my own nirvana. This is my personal challenge. As Jane Fonda said “I am 70+and I don’t know how many morning I still have so I make sure that I don’t have a hangover”.

We are talking with my son Elias 17 years at age and he is a dreamer, ambitious with a winner mindset like his mommy. I wasn’t sure if that’s good for him hahaha. It is inspiring seeing that passion in his eyes that he wants to become a successful game designer and wants to work for Sony! I am his biggest fan and motivator, but I told him the example that I shared with you previously re the drinks and explained my philosophy about choices connected to a consequence.

We will all keep doing mistakes but if you are aware of your choices and the consequences then unconsciously you will be choosing what’s best for you. Most people they just live, they follow the flow and usually the most common phrase they will be using is like “I am like my Mom or Dad, I can’t change my life, I am unlucky, My life is shit etc”

The sad thing here is the fact that they are so comfortable in their misery that they don’t dare to see their self-naked to face their reality. There is not a quick fix to success, to get the perfect body. There is no quick fix end of the story. Elias asked me “Mom what are you saying that I will not be able to achieve my goals?” I laughed because it is exactly the opposite that I was telling him. You will achieve your goals as long as you are aware of the simple fact that YOUR CHOICES WILL DEFINE YOUR LIFE's quality.

Does this sound too simple to you guys? Well, it is because it is simple. I am a deep thinker and I think you know that this for me by nowJ. I am analysing people’ behaviour and thinking how I can we get the desired lifestyle by finding inner peace at the same time. Let’s say that you are boiling water to make a cup of tea. You do know that if you spit the water on your hand you will get burn, correct? Then in case that you do get burnt why do you look surprised?

I love studying myself and humans in general and people will ask me “yes but how that applies at the workplace” Then I look at them and ask them this “Well, you are there having a drink yes? But where have you been 2 hours ago? You were at work, correct? Usually, they laugh and nod positively. People is people either they are at the pub or at work. When you are at work or anywhere try to think before you speak. It shouldn’t matter if you are at work or at the pub socializing.

It should become your pattern change your mindset and become more mindful about your own life. You cannot be a kind person with your friends and a mean person with your employees! Then it means that you have two faces and trust me it the end it will torn you apart emotionally. Go to the loo and think of your choices which consequence are you choosing? In my culture we are very emotional people and I do believe that emotions do cloud judgement sometimes. There is a balance between cold logic and highly emotional logic. Find your personal balance. Learn how to control yourself your yin and yang.

If you know people then you will know how to manage your team, employees, management in a n effective way. I would like to close my article by saying that next time you will make a decision just take 5-10 minutes and think of which consequence do you prefer because there is no way that you will decide something with consequence.

You know what is amazing? That you can change your choice! Even if you have chosen something that does not serve you well now that does not mean that you can't change your mind. You can start over.

Feel free to contact me if you would like to discuss how you can create a positive and inspiring workplace for you r people.

Nadia

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