What is confidence?

?I’m here to talk to you about confidence.?

Confidence…you know – everybody uses this word, don’t they? And no-one really knows what it means. So my definition of confidence is absolute certainty. If you’re absolutely certain about something, you’re confident with it. If you’re uncertain, you lack confidence, you lack drive, you lack motivation. When you’re certain about something, you’re absolutely positively going for it fantastically.?

Creating a state

Confidence isn’t natural when you don’t know how to do something. I did a training in my Mastermind where we talked about this for like a whole hour, and a client I coached needed help with public speaking. She was going to be on a stage doing a big talk to hundreds of people and she was shitting herself is the long and short of it. So what we did is we created in our head, a version of herself where she was totally confident. We created a state. That’s what we do in NLP, we create a state of the empowered part of ourselves we want to be, and we practised it in her head. We practised how it was going to feel, what she was going to wear, how the audience were going to receive it, how she would feel afterwards – we practised the whole thing so that by the end of it, she felt confident, and even more, freakin excited! And if you need that, you need me!?