What Causes Our Unhappiness?

“Feelings are just visitors, let them come and go.” ?-Mooji

Unhappiness is part of everyone’s life. When unhappiness washes over us, we usually look around and attribute blame to the present situation that we are facing,?as the cause. Nearly everyone, looks to our environment or our circumstances in life, as the culprit for our feelings, seeing ourselves as hapless victims of chance. This is a very big misunderstanding.

Life is never an outside-in experience, although it may seem to be.

Feelings can only arise from within us, never from outside of us. Think about that for a moment. Does anyone have magical powers that can give you certain feelings? ?

To suppose that events occurring around us have some type of magical powers that can cause us to think a certain way or to feel certain feelings, is very flawed thinking. If we maintain that view of life, we will always be tricked into believing that circumstances, events, or people have the power to control us and our emotions. No one and nothing has that power. The power of how one feels, belongs to you.?

Feelings are an excellent indicator about our thoughts, at the present moment. They act as a barometer to let you know what your thoughts are right now;?a hint of what your mind is doing and thinking. Our thinking about events and circumstances are what creates feelings. While we cannot control circumstances around us or the behaviors of others, it is completely within our power to determine how we feel about those events, by recognizing that feelings come from within us, not outside of us.?

While we may be subject to the rantings and ravings of an angry person, the infidelities of a trusted partner, abuse by a political tyrant, mistreatment in our workplace or by others in a higher social class, or physical harm and other horrific cruelties at the hands of others,? it is important to realize that no one and nothing has the power to ever make us feel a certain way or has the inherent ability to crush our spirit; that is unless we allow it.?

We always have the power to look at any situation objectively and allow negativity to pass through us, without offering it a place to roost.?

While we often hear from others and may even say ourselves, “That makes me so angry,” this is never the truth. What we are feeling, is our thoughts about our perception of what just occurred. No situation, person, place, or thing has the power to create feelings in anyone.

It is crucial to understand this.

If we can accept the principle that situations have no power over what we think or feel, we can then allow any negative thoughts about a situation to pass through us, far more easily. It is when we embrace negative thinking about any given situation or allow negative feelings to fester to the degree that they dominate our mind, that our inner spirit can become profoundly and negatively impacted. It is not any particular situation that has power to wound us. It is our thoughts about the situation that can take control over our happiness and inner peace.

Our thinking about events is the cause of our unhappiness.

We can choose to see things as they really are and accept what already is, as an astute observer. We cannot change what already IS. That does not mean that we have to allow ourselves to be abused, defeated, or berated. We can accept the present circumstances as they already are and not fight against them. By accepting what already is, our mind is free and clear to choose a course of action, guided by our resilient and wise inner spirit. We can choose to flee if we are in imminent physical danger, stand our ground with an appropriate response, walk away to respond later, or simply allow the situation to be, as it passes through us like the wind passing through the branches of a tree. In this way, we remain a wise master of our own thoughts and feelings, instead of allowing circumstances, outside of us, to batter us about.

If we are in touch with what is going on inside of us, we can always take appropriate action to protect ourselves internally, from anything that may be going on outside of us. The most important thing that we can ever do is to realize that circumstances never have any power to create unhappiness within us. The power to create happiness is always an inside job that may be posing as an external imposter. Regardless of anything going on around you, happiness and inner peace can only originate from within you.

You have absolute power to protect what is going on inside of you from anything that is going on outside of you.

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